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Do What I Want? Or What Others Want For Me?

Mon Jun 04, 2007 7:12 am

I've got a bit of a dilemma.

I'll give you all a bit of background information. I'm 17 and I'm currently at college doing 4 AS Levels. Ever since I was about 10, I've wanted to be a flight attendant, I suppose its my dream. My mum knows I want to be an F/A, and she's been very supportive until recently.

Anyway, my tutor told me that she thinks I should maybe apply to university, because she seems to think I'd suit it and have the potential and all that. I told my mum, and we got a bit carried away talking about open days for universities, and applying and such and such, yet really, I'm not too sure about the whole thing. We've arranged to go to the open days.

Recently, mum's been saying things like she really wants me to get a good job with a good wage, job security and all that, and all the benefits that university will bring. I know she just wants what she thinks is best for me, but I kinda feel pressured into going to university as many of my friends will be going, and I just feel I have to do the family proud, I know that sounds a bit wierd.

So, a bit of a dilemma really. Should I go to university, for the wrong reasons but come out with a better paid job that I don't enjoy at the end? Or should I do what I want and get job satisfaction, instead of what others want for me?

What would you do if you were in my situation?

Thanks for any replies

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RE: Do What I Want? Or What Others Want For Me?

Mon Jun 04, 2007 7:17 am

Quoting HUYguy (Thread starter):
What would you do if you were in my situation?

Major in Dance.
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Mon Jun 04, 2007 7:27 am

Go to university, and then become a flight attendant. You get the best of both worlds.

Quoting STLGph (Reply 1):

Major in Dance.

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RE: Do What I Want? Or What Others Want For Me?

Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:15 am

Quoting HUYguy (Thread starter):
What would you do if you were in my situation?

This:

Quoting HUYguy (Thread starter):
do what I want and get job satisfaction

Good luck  bigthumbsup 

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Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:25 am

Quoting BaylorAirBear (Reply 2):
Go to university, and then become a flight attendant. You get the best of both worlds.

 checkmark  Definitely go to university if you can. It will open a lot more doors for you if the F/A thing doesn't work out.

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Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:30 am

Is it better to have a good paying job and be miserable because it's not something you like, or get paid less and be happy in your post (as long as you don't want to work for NW, US or some other company where they have miserable FAs).
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Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:30 am

Quoting Mir (Reply 4):

or...go be a flight attendant and then at the very least, take your first "intro" gen ed classes online or distance learning.

you could eventually get seniority to get the schedule to fly on the weekends, take classes during the week, and then perhaps use the degree to move up and become a Flight Attendant Supervisor or even a trainer, or what have you...
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Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:34 am

Quoting HUYguy (Thread starter):
So, a bit of a dilemma really. Should I go to university, for the wrong reasons but come out with a better paid job that I don't enjoy at the end? Or should I do what I want and get job satisfaction, instead of what others want for me?

BAB and Mir are right. I'm at university just for the hell of it. Majoring in Human Rights, with a minor in Peace and Conflict Research. Really interesting stuff, but I don't have the faintest idea what I'll be doing when I'm done here. But I'm having the time of my life, and wouldn't do anything else at the moment. Doesn't hurt to have a higher education, even if it won't be relevant in one's career.

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Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:41 am

I say apply for both and if you get the FA position, take it. If after a year or so you dont like it, go to school. Many people take a year off, the only real issue is you will be ayear older than the others in the dorm and with different experiences than they have.

Quoting Go3Team (Reply 5):
Is it better to have a good paying job and be miserable

Its not that simple. What will bring in the greatest overall joy in your life is what you should do. Is it worth being miserable for 8 hrs a day, but have an incredible life the other 16hrs? Is it worth being happy for 8hrs but struggle the other 16?

Overall, Im going to say you are too young to worry about the above statement. Its more important to just do at this point and experience as much as you can. Except for very few people at your age, you wont and dont know what will make you happy in life. You just have ideas, but you wont know until you do.
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Mon Jun 04, 2007 1:43 pm

Quoting HUYguy (Thread starter):
So, a bit of a dilemma really. Should I go to university, for the wrong reasons but come out with a better paid job that I don't enjoy at the end? Or should I do what I want and get job satisfaction, instead of what others want for me?

Depends...Are *you* paying for the university?
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Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:49 pm

Quoting KFLLCFII (Reply 9):
Depends...Are *you* paying for the university?

The obvious question (why didn't I think of that...?). Anyway, I don't pay for it, which is why my conscience let's me carry on like this :P

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Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:04 pm

You dont need to go to University to be an FA, end of! So if you reeeeeely want to be an F/A, get the University bit out of your mind.
I knew I always wanted to work with aeroplanes since being a kid. So when I got out of college, I knew what I had to do and that was 9 years ago. I am now an FA and I wish I had become one sooner.
University are for people who dont know what they want to do as a profession, but you do, so dont hold back!!
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Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:32 pm

Quoting Speedbirdie (Reply 11):
University are for people who dont know what they want to do as a profession, but you do, so dont hold back!!

no, university is for those that DO know what they want as a profession and need a qualification to do it.....

As mentioned earlier, the key is to do what makes you happy. Work is a large proportion of your life, so make sure you are happy with what you do. Your idea of doing a job you dont enjoy but pays well is flawed, you are assuming money will make you happy, but that is not always the case.
 
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Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:38 pm

I'd recommend doing what you want. It's easier to survive on a FA salary NOW than after getting a college degree and student loans. You can always go to college later.

Quoting Speedbirdie (Reply 11):
University are for people who dont know what they want to do as a profession, but you do, so dont hold back!!

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In some people's case, maybe. Otherwise, no.
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Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:40 pm

Here's a tip: You only live ONCE.............. make the best out of it.. Do what makes YOU happy.. not your mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, cat or dog....

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Tue Jun 05, 2007 12:26 am

Quoting Nighthawk (Reply 12):
no, university is for those that DO know what they want as a profession and need a qualification to do it.....

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Tue Jun 05, 2007 12:51 am

I'd suggest going to university. It gives you something to fall back upon if things do not work out further down the line.

Quoting Doona (Reply 7):
I'm at university just for the hell of it.

Also, like Doona, most people go to Uni for the hell of it. There was a thread recently which showed the percentage of people who's university degree was in any way related to their current jobs... there was a low percentage of people in jobs related to their university studies.
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Tue Jun 05, 2007 1:03 am

Quoting Legoguy (Reply 16):

So what the hell is the point going to uni and getting into all that student debt crap if its not even going to help you in your job?!

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Tue Jun 05, 2007 1:07 am

Quoting Jamesbuk (Reply 17):
So what the hell is the point going to uni and getting into all that student debt crap if its not even going to help you in your job?!

So you have something to fall back upon if thing's do not true out as you planned. It's basically a back up plan.
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Tue Jun 05, 2007 1:08 am

Quoting Jamesbuk (Reply 17):
So what the hell is the point going to uni and getting into all that student debt crap if its not even going to help you in your job?!

You could always get a degree in something like Public Relations, Communication, or a foreign language to help enhance your marketability to the airline world. Excellent communication, I feel, is necessary in the flight attendant world.
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Tue Jun 05, 2007 1:12 am

I'll give you the advice of a 40 year old.

Go to college. You may think you know what you want to do for the rest of your life now. However, you made this decision when you were, what, 10 years old? There are a lot of other careers that are out there that you might like even better. Going to college will expose you to other subjects that you might discover you have an interest in, or are good at.

Then, when you are finished, you can make a more well informed decision about what you really want to do. Also, you could major in a foreign language, which would put you in higher demand as an F/A with those skills.

I decided in high school that I wanted to do what I am currently doing. I not unhappy, and I make a really good living, but if I had been more open minded about it back then, I would have seen that there are a lot of other occupations that interest me that I am well suited for. Now I am kind of stuck, because it is not really practical or possible for me to go back to school to get the education I would need to pursue those career paths.
 
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Tue Jun 05, 2007 1:20 am

When I was 17 years old and just graduated High School, I was playing in a band that was locally successful, and I wanted nothing more than to pursue music rather than go to college. After much thought on my part and aggressive convincing by my parents, I went to college. Since graduating, I've had not only the opportunity for good employment, but I was also able to pursue the music career to the point of realizing that it's not all it seemed it might be. Now I can play music for fun and some profit, while maintaining a good job.

Do yourself a favor: go to college. You can always become a FA afterwards, and as 767Lover stated, some skills from college may make you in higher demand in that profession. If being an FA turns out to be not what you envisioned, then you'll be poised to do something else to support yourself. Best of both worlds; that's a no-brainer to me. Good luck.
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Tue Jun 05, 2007 1:24 am

Go to college as others are saying. I'm 20 and will attending college for this reason. I wanted to be an f/a, but now that companies prefer college, ill be able to make the most of it once I get my AA degree.

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Tue Jun 05, 2007 1:26 am

Quoting MCOflyer (Reply 22):
ill be able to make the most of it once I get my AA degree.

Just wondering, why aren't you going to go for your BS/BA instead. Much more marketable than a AA degree
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Tue Jun 05, 2007 1:44 am

Quoting Speedbirdie (Reply 11):
University are for people who dont know what they want to do as a profession

Correction: Degrees in 'Liberal Arts' or 'Social Studies' are for people who don't know what they want to do as a profession. The rest of us either got down to finding a job right out of school/college, or got a degree that mattered.
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Tue Jun 05, 2007 1:47 am

Quoting TZ757300 (Reply 23):

Just wondering, why aren't you going to go for your BS/BA instead. Much more marketable than a AA degree

Can always get the AA now at a cheap community college, then apply to a four year university to get the BA/BS.
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