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Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:18 am

I have heard that age matters and doesn't matter for relationships. Besides holly wood, what are some differences you have noticed over the years?

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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:19 am

you're only as old as the woman you feel.
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:21 am

Depends. Are you planning on dating Joan Rivers?  scratchchin 
 
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:22 am

Quoting Andz (Reply 1):
you're only as old as the woman you feel.

 rotfl  That's pretty good.

I don't think it matter to a degree. I know several couples where there are 10 or more years different in age, and I don't think it matters in such relationships.

Now, if you're talking about an 80 year old man, and a 35 year old woman, then, in most cases, there's an ulterior motive for being married-Anne Nicole Smith and that rich old fart are case in point. But in most relationships, I don't think it matters.
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:39 am

When you're a teen, it sure can... The difference in maturity in these short years means that two people in a relationship with more than a 2 or 3 year gap can be inappropriate... I've personally seen this with a LOT of people.
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:43 am

if you're 35, and the girl on question is 14...yeah, age matters. Especially if you don't want to do 10-15 in state prison!!

Seriously, though, when you get up into your 30s and 40s (and more) I think age differences don't matter AS much. I think maturity, self-confidence, humor, really good sex, mutual respect and a common intelligence leverl are more important than age.
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:45 am

"It's no problem for us"

Signed,

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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:48 am

Quoting MCOflyer (Thread starter):
I have heard that age matters and doesn't matter for relationships. Besides holly wood, what are some differences you have noticed over the years?

Hunter

 bigthumbsup  Having just had a look at the age specified in MCOflyer's profile, I reckon that the problem here is that Hunter's probably 19 or 20 and fancies the arse off a 15 or 16yr old chick and vv. and she wants him to become her b/f but Hunter's worried what people will think because of her age....

Come on Hunter, tell me I'm wrong!!  biggrin 

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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:52 am

Quoting Falcon84 (Reply 6):
40 year old teecher and his 16 year old bride.

Snide comments aside, what can these two people POSSIBLY have in common? Sex? He's 40, for God's sake....give him another 20 years and either be begging for Viagra..if it's not too late. AND she'll still be in her mid-30s....in her prime.

Something seriously warped here. Ewwwww.
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 4:11 am

Quoting San747 (Reply 4):
When you're a teen, it sure can... The difference in maturity in these short years means that two people in a relationship with more than a 2 or 3 year gap can be inappropriate... I've personally seen this with a LOT of people.

Totally true.
 
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 6:27 am

It is a advantage to have more or less similar age.
All memories that you have together from the same
time period. And that you both usually have friends
at the same age makes it a much easier. Remember
that it is always difficult to be different. Blue (!) hair,
driving a russian Lada OR having a wife that is 20
years younger OR older... It is easier to be one of
the crowd. But you make your choice!
 
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 7:17 am

Quoting Bofredrik (Reply 10):
All memories that you have together from the same
time period.

Over-rated. Love is the equalizer here, not age.

And I say that as a man who is married to a woman who is only 3 months young than I am.
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 7:35 am

Quoting Falcon84 (Reply 11):
Love is the equalizer here, not age.

I completely agree. One should never lead their love life by hard and fast rules regarding age. If you want to date someone, screw someone or marry someone, age should never come into the equation if your feelings are genuine.
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 7:40 am

Quoting N1120A (Reply 12):
One should never lead their love life by hard and fast rules regarding age. If you want to date someone, screw someone or marry someone, age should never come into the equation if your feelings are genuine.

I agree with you, but only up to a point... If you or the other person is too young or immature to... differentiate between different feelings about the opposite sex, then that can be (and usually ends up being) a problem.

I say that based off a very messy ordeal that a 17-year-old female friend of mine went through when she started going out with a 20-year-old guy...
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 7:45 am

Quoting San747 (Reply 13):
If you or the other person is too young or immature to... differentiate between different feelings about the opposite sex, then that can be (and usually ends up being) a problem.

Naturally that can be an issue. I was talking more about life in a vacuum, where people are acting rationally and reasonably. When dealing with younger people, you will of course get issues as to whether the feelings are actually genuine or are fueled by the proverbial puppy love.

Quoting San747 (Reply 13):

I say that based off a very messy ordeal that a 17-year-old female friend of mine went through when she started going out with a 20-year-old guy...

Honestly, neither 17 nor 20 is an age where one is ready for something particularly serious.
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 8:20 am

Quoting N1120A (Reply 14):
Honestly, neither 17 nor 20 is an age where one is ready for something particularly serious.

Or particularly mature enough...
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 8:22 am

Quoting RobK (Reply 7):

Come on Hunter, tell me I'm wrong!!

Shes 21 my friend. I'm 20. i put it in my profile just so I can stare at it for another 6 months.

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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 9:27 am

Quoting N1120A (Reply 12):
Quoting Falcon84 (Reply 11):Love is the equalizer here, not age.
I completely agree. One should never lead their love life by hard and fast rules regarding age. If you want to date someone, screw someone or marry someone, age should never come into the equation if your feelings are genuine.

I agree, as long as you don't bring kids into the equation. Assholes in their late 50's who father children with women in their twenties or thirties are nothing more than self absorbent idiots who think about themselves first and foremost, and care little about the fact they might not be around to help their kids grow up.
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 9:54 am

Quoting Halls120 (Reply 17):
Assholes in their late 50's who father children with women in their twenties or thirties are nothing more than self absorbent idiots who think about themselves first and foremost, and care little about the fact they might not be around to help their kids grow up.

I feel the same way about these women recently who have had kids in their 60s. I'm only 50, and wouldn't dream of having a baby at my age. When the child is graduating from college, I'm well past retirement? I'd not be around to see grandkids...unless the child started having babies whie still a child.
It's not fair on the child, and I don't think anyone has the patience for scrreaming infants at later ages that they do when younger. The idea of getting up for a 3am feeding or diaper change now? No way. My child-bearing years are finished, thank you.
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 6:11 pm

My grandfather was 25 years older than my grandmother, she was 21 when they got married. They lived happily together and had 4 kids.So I would say in that case, it didn't matter.
I have a friend, she's 24 and lives with a 14 year older guy, they are also happy together.

My girlfriend is 11 years younger than me, for me it don't matter, but she sometimes say, that it is a problem for her. In some way she is childish, and she really needs to grow up.
So maybe at this point, it does matter. I'm not sure, what the future of our relationship will be... I just have to wait and see..
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 7:39 pm

Age doesn't matter, all that matters is how well you get along. However, age can influence that, so in a way it does.
 
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Tue Jul 31, 2007 7:41 pm

Quoting MCOflyer (Reply 16):
Shes 21 my friend. I'm 20.

Nothing wrong with her being a year older than you. The difference is negligible anyway. Good luck and hope it works out!

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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Thu Aug 02, 2007 8:40 am

It's all math- the relative age difference is the key.

For example, she's 5 years younger than me. (imagining a situation here)
I'm 20, and she's 15. The relative age difference is either 25% or 33%.
Wait a bit- I'm 25 and she's 20. The relative age difference is 25% or 20%.

The number goes down as time goes.

By the time I'm 75, the relative age difference is 7.1428...% or 6.666666...%.

Math explains everything and is all that counts.  Wink
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Thu Aug 02, 2007 11:17 am

I once had a great relationship with a woman who was 20 years older than me. She was 42/43 and I was 22/23. She was a great woman who never had any children and was never married. We had a lot in common and loved to spend time together. Her job transferred her 2000 miles away and I was still in college. So we broke it off. I still think about her. We got some odd looks from waiters and such when we went out, but neither one of us thought age was a big deal after we got to know each other. Susan was on only 4 years younger than my mom. It felt weird at first, but I got over it.

Quoting RobK (Reply 21):
Nothing wrong with her being a year older than you

A good friend of mine has a wife who is seven years older than him. They have been married for 16 years

My girlfriend is 5 years younger than me.

A man I work with is 60 and is wife is 33. She can't have kids and his are my age. They are perfect for each other. They both love golf and they met on the golf course.

Age means nothing when there is love. Kids can bring in a different train of thought. But not everyone is going to have or can have children.
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Thu Aug 02, 2007 11:25 am

Quoting RobK (Reply 21):

Nothing wrong with her being a year older than you. The difference is negligible anyway. Good luck and hope it works out!

Thanks man. I wanna have kids but not yet.

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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Thu Aug 02, 2007 11:50 am

Quoting San747 (Reply 4):
When you're a teen, it sure can... The difference in maturity in these short years means that two people in a relationship with more than a 2 or 3 year gap can be inappropriate... I've personally seen this with a LOT of people.

I think it's really the percentage of age difference that matters. The difference between a 24 and 28 year old is far less than say a 16 year old and 20 year old. Case in point: I work with this one 16 year old girl. She's fun, outgoing, and decently attractive, and we do flirt a lot, but she's only a [rising] sophomore in high school whereas I'm a a junior in college. One of the other workers really teases me about it, but I'm just not interested in a relationship. For one, I don't think the Air Force likes dealing with statutory rape cases, but also, I'll graduate from college and be commissioned onto active duty as an officer into the Air Force before she even graduates high school. It'd just be way too weird.   

Edit: Seems GAIsweetGAI and myself are on the same page regarding "percentages". Must be a math major or engineer as well.  wink 


Quoting N1120A (Reply 14):
Honestly, neither 17 nor 20 is an age where one is ready for something particularly serious.

While in certain cases, you may be right, that is not also the case. We have two friends of the family who married right out of high school and still together now in their late 50s or early 60s (I dont know their exact age). Same with one of my best friends from high school. His parents married right out of high school (now in their late 30s, early 40s) and are still together.

I know of at least two couples from my senior class that have married since my high school graduation (that being just over two years ago.) Will they last? I'm not qualified to make that decision and I'm not going to speculate.

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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Thu Aug 02, 2007 1:22 pm

Quoting FlyDeltaJets87 (Reply 25):
The difference between a 24 and 28 year old is far less than say a 16 year old and 20 year old. Case in point: I work with this one 16 year old girl. She's fun, outgoing, and decently attractive, and we do flirt a lot, but she's only a [rising] sophomore in high school whereas I'm a a junior in college. One of the other workers really teases me about it, but I'm just not interested in a relationship. For one, I don't think the Air Force likes dealing with statutory rape cases, but also, I'll graduate from college and be commissioned onto active duty as an officer into the Air Force before she even graduates high school. It'd just be way too weird.

You are totally right. You understand what is and is not off-limits, and you understand the difference in maturity between teens and adults...
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Thu Aug 02, 2007 6:49 pm

Quoting FlyDeltaJets87 (Reply 25):

Edit: Seems GAIsweetGAI and myself are on the same page regarding "percentages". Must be a math major or engineer as well.

Indeed- a future engineer (hopefully). Interestingly enough, I got the relative difference from my physics class.  Smile
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RE: Does Age Matter For Relationships

Thu Aug 02, 2007 7:05 pm

Mental Age does matter not physical Age  Smile
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