airtran737
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Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 5:50 pm

So there is this girl who I have known since I was a 19 year old idiot ramper for Servisair in GRR. She was a flight attendant for YX, and we handled their flights so I got to know her. Over the years we have come to be great friends, she has been there to encourage me as I progressed with my career and I did the same for her. I am now 26 and living in ATL, she is 29 living in MKE. I work in the wonderful airline world, and she's a flight attendant for TZ. Last weekend I was in MKE visiting some friends from my days at FL when she called to see if I wanted to hang out. We've hung out tons of times, and I didn't think anything of it. One thing led to another and we ended up fooling around a bit. Now over the course of this week we have been talking about what happened and have decided that it was a good thing, but our history together is so complex. She has seen me go through my relationships and I have seen her go through hers, and we have both been there to give one another advice, and that make both of us worry about the prospect of dating one another. Adding to the complexity is that we share a common best friend who neither of us has been able to get his opinion on the situation because he is a 747 F/O for Evergreen and in some part of BFE as we speak. To top it all of she has a one year old son with a complete asshole. The kid is a good little guy, but I can for see myself having to stomp a mud-hole in his dads ass and walk it dry (I've almost done it before, he has a big case of Napoleon Syndrome.)

So here's the question, do I say screw it and go for this? Or should I just call it good and walk away? It's your typical airline relationship, I average between 13 and 17 days off a month, and could totally commute it if I wanted to, she's in the same boat. Usually I make a decision without consultation and for the most part I am always right, but this one requires a bit more thought, and care. It's a delicate situation, and I want to make the best decision for all involved. Your input is appreciated.

[Edited 2007-08-19 10:50:57]

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 5:59 pm

No.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 6:19 pm

It seems there is 'something', why not try?
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 6:28 pm

Its the age thing that bothers me the most. But if you like her why not.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 6:33 pm

Quoting Austinairport (Reply 3):
Its the age thing that bothers me the most. But if you like her why not.

We are three years apart, whats wrong with that?

Quoting AeroWesty (Reply 1):
No.

Elaborate please
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 7:02 pm

Quoting Austinairport (Reply 3):
Its the age thing that bothers me the most. But if you like her why not.

3 years is nothing, it should be no handicap.

Think carefully before moving forward - taking on a kid is a big responsibility, more so if it's not your own kid (and more fraught with potential problems) - but bottom line really is does she make you happy, and do you think she can make you happy long term. Ditto for her - do you make her happy, and can you continue to make her happy long term.

I don't see how the fact of having helped each other out through other relationships is a problem - it's more of a bonus, it means you're friends, and the basis of any long-term relationship has to be friendship - attraction and a physical relationship goes on top of that. Knowing each others strenghts and weaknesses, and about each others emotional baggage up front, saves a lot of nasty surprises later on.

If it's going to go anywhere though, one of you might want to start thinking about relocating - long distance commuter relationships have bags of potential hurdles to overcome by themselves, and with everything else here, distance might prove to be one hurdle too many.

Best of luck...
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 7:02 pm

I think having the long term history behind you both is a good thing. I'd probably go for it, although being dad to another guy's kid is always a concern.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 7:24 pm

Quoting AirTran737 (Reply 4):
Elaborate please

Think of everyone you know. Think of everyone you know with a long distance relationship. Think of everyone you know with a long distance relationship where the dad of the potential kid that's involved has to have his ass stomped on. I could go on, but you get the idea.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 7:34 pm

Quoting AeroWesty (Reply 7):
Think of everyone you know. Think of everyone you know with a long distance relationship. Think of everyone you know with a long distance relationship where the dad of the potential kid that's involved has to have his ass stomped on. I could go on, but you get the idea.

I understand your point, and coming from the "International Homo of Mystery" it makes it even more valid. The fact that we are airline folk is a factor that can negate the long distance issue. I have been commuting for the last five years to and from work, it's just something that we all get used to.

Quoting AerorobNZ (Reply 6):
although being dad to another guy's kid is always a concern.

I am a step child, so I have some experience in dealing with the situation. It's a tough role to step into, and not every one can do it.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 7:41 pm

Quoting AirTran737 (Reply 8):
The fact that we are airline folk is a factor that can negate the long distance issue.

Not with a kid involved and an errant dad close-by. You'd be "the other dad who commutes in". You want to date this chick, or fend for a kid from far away?

I'd say stay friends, and don't work yourself into ruining the good thing you already have.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 7:45 pm

Quoting AirTran737 (Thread starter):
To top it all of she has a one year old son with a complete asshole.

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 8:25 pm

Quoting HowSwedeitis (Reply 10):

She chose the asshole.

If she did, I doubt she'd have a kid  wink 
 
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 9:10 pm

Quoting AirTran737 (Reply 8):
I am a step child, so I have some experience in dealing with the situation. It's a tough role to step into, and not every one can do it.

That's part of the reason why I've had a thing about not dating women with kids. Although this rule of mine I may toss aside, as I recently found out from a friend that an old high school crush of mine is single and looking. She's got a kid, but I have to say she's probably one girl I'd be willing to consider setting that rule aside for.

While I've never done the long-distance thing, most of the time it doesn't seem to work. But then again, there's exceptions to the rule, case in point, our own CastleIsland, who's marrying his long-distance relationship towards the end of this month.

Eventually, if this relationship works, someone's going to have to make the sacrifice and move. This could also potentially mean quitting a job. Would you be willing to quit your job and move up to MKE? Or would she be willing to potentially quit her job and move to Atlanta?
 
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 9:34 pm

Quoting Bill142 (Reply 11):
If she did, I doubt she'd have a kid

Oh so he just all of a sudden became one huh? Yea right. She was liking his style and such and made a mistake. It happens all the time. (Especially in Washington  Wink)
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 9:36 pm

If you like her enough then yes. Does the father of the kid like you? If not there would be conflicts and well. My final verdict is yes if you think shes worth it.

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Sun Aug 19, 2007 9:46 pm

No. Too much baggage. Too many relationship-killing factors to deal with. Not worth the hassle.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 12:04 am

Just remember if the relationship goes sour, the friendship is most likely out the door. Being with a woman in a relationship and a friendship are two different ball games.

I've done it and lost a very good friend.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 12:05 am

If you and she can handle the distance and possible obstacles standing in your way then heck yeah, you should go for it.


Every relationship takes work, effort and compromises (i'm almost willing to say that they do that by definition), in one form or another. So if you are willing to work on it (and she is) then go ahead, by all means.


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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 12:33 am

I'm living in a long distance relationship since 7 years (I live and work in Germany, my girlfriend lives and works in Dublin, Ireland). Our relationship is still going strong, though we are thinking of eventually tying the knot and moving together.

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 1:00 am

I wouldn't do it, because she's got a kid and a lot of baggage. Best of luck.

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 1:51 am

Quoting AirTran737 (Thread starter):
Should I Date This Girl?

If you have to ask this question then the answer is no....
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 2:02 am

Quoting HowSwedeitis (Reply 13):

Oh so he just all of a sudden became one huh? Yea right. She was liking his style and such and made a mistake. It happens all the time. (Especially in Washington Wink)

You need to be more perverted when you read comments about assholes  Wink
 
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 2:03 am

Reading the responses here, I can't help but think that all you guys are saying that if you're a single mother you shouldn't have a chance at a relationship.....she has a kid, avoid her like the plague?
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 2:08 am

Quoting Kmh1956 (Reply 22):
she has a kid, avoid her like the plague?

I'm not sure if my response is part of "all you guys" or not, but no, that's not what I was saying. There seems to be an ogre for a father which will complicate matters. If she hasn't dealt with that yet, it's only asking for trouble to step into the situation, as far as I read it, especially on a commuter basis.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 3:21 am

Quoting Kmh1956 (Reply 22):
Reading the responses here, I can't help but think that all you guys are saying that if you're a single mother you shouldn't have a chance at a relationship.....she has a kid, avoid her like the plague?

My response had nothing to do with the single mother aspect of the woman, so I don't think I should be included in "all" the guys. My wife was a single mother when I met her and i have a great stepson that I think of as my own...

Quoting MaidensGator (Reply 20):
Quoting AirTran737 (Thread starter):
Should I Date This Girl?

If you have to ask this question then the answer is no....

My point is that when it's right, you know without having to ask anybody.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 9:25 am

Before meeting the guy who is now my husband and the love of my life, I had a relationship with a guy who was a new father. He had a 5-month old when we met. No, he was not married or in a relationship with the mother of the child when I met him.

So I have been there, done that, bought the T-shirt and can say that it is a bad idea for you to invest emotionally beyond friendship. First of all, the child part of the equation is simply too new for the mother and the father to really know how they feel about the situation. The kid is only a year old, right? The father is going to be involved in these 2 individuals' lives whether you like it or not, unless he has agreed to be completely cut out of the kid's life. Okay, you might say how is that different from divorced people with kids? It just is. This is for all intents and purposes a brand new baby (even if it a year old.) It is a major life change for these people and they may still have the feeling that they want to work it out and give it a try for the sake of the child. They both feel the need to form a relationship with the child which will complicate things for you, as the father will have major problems with you being around the kid. The mother is probably feeling needy and emotional as she tries to adjust to motherhood, and is seeing the security of "having someone."

My relationship with the guy started out fantastically -- fireworks, passion, "we're made for each other," all of that -- and it crashed and burned because of the mess created by juggling the emotions and work of an infant and the jealously of the mother, who couldn't stand me being around the kid, etc. etc. Thank God by the way because the guy I married is a much better "fit" for me after all and I am totally happy with the way things worked out.

Quoting Kmh1956 (Reply 22):
Reading the responses here, I can't help but think that all you guys are saying that if you're a single mother you shouldn't have a chance at a relationship.....she has a kid, avoid her like the plague?

No, just the reasons stated above.
 
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 9:44 am

Quoting AirTran737 (Thread starter):
Over the years we have come to be great friends, she has been there to encourage me as I progressed with my career and I did the same for her

Leave it at that. Seriously.

Quoting AirTran737 (Thread starter):
To top it all of she has a one year old son with a complete asshole.

Oh man, all the more reason to not get involved.

Quoting HowSwedeitis (Reply 10):
She chose the asshole. DON'T DO IT!

Women say they want the nice guy who's polite and holds the door open. But that's a lie. It's the asshole who they sleep with and get pregnant by. The she becomes a bitch for the rest of her life and blames all men for all their problems.

Quoting HowSwedeitis (Reply 13):
She was liking his style and such and made a mistake. It happens all the time. (Especially in Washington )

Yep. See my comment above. And yeah, you couldn't be more right about Washington. Damn near fell out of my chair laughing at that one.

Quoting An-225 (Reply 19):
I wouldn't do it, because she's got a kid and a lot of baggage. Best of luck.

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 10:03 am

Quoting AeroWesty (Reply 7):
Quoting AirTran737 (Reply 4):Elaborate please
Think of everyone you know. Think of everyone you know with a long distance relationship. Think of everyone you know with a long distance relationship where the dad of the potential kid that's involved has to have his ass stomped on. I could go on, but you get the idea.

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Quoting MaidensGator (Reply 20):
Quoting AirTran737 (Thread starter):Should I Date This Girl?
If you have to ask this question then the answer is no....

another  checkmark 

Quoting Kmh1956 (Reply 22):
Reading the responses here, I can't help but think that all you guys are saying that if you're a single mother you shouldn't have a chance at a relationship.....she has a kid, avoid her like the plague?

Not at all. But when you are talking about being in a relationship where there is a a mom, a child, and a father in the picture, trying to be in a relationship with Mom will be exceedingly difficult under the best circumstances. Add a long distance relationship to the mix, and you are asking for nothing but trouble.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 10:10 am

Quoting AsstChiefMark (Reply 15):
No. Too much baggage.



Quoting An-225 (Reply 19):
I wouldn't do it, because she's got a kid and a lot of baggage.



Quoting HowSwedeitis (Reply 10):
DON'T DO IT!

These are the ones I was referring to, not:

Quoting AeroWesty (Reply 23):
AeroWesty



Quoting MaidensGator (Reply 24):
MaidensGator

However, I do take exception to this:

Quoting N174UA (Reply 26):
Women say they want the nice guy who's polite and holds the door open. But that's a lie. It's the asshole who they sleep with and get pregnant by. The she becomes a bitch for the rest of her life and blames all men for all their problems.

I married the king of the assholes....trust me; Im lucky I survived....and I DO want the nice guy, the gentleman....and I don't think for one second that my marriage to the Asshole King has turned me into a bitch, nor do I blame all men for all my problems. As far as the AK is concerned, he was escorted off our lovely island by our Immigration Department several years sgo (with no help from me) and has been blacklisted.....a diagnosed sociopath and a drunk....so it's not my imagination or bitchy tendencies that thinks of him this way...
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 10:21 am

Quoting Kmh1956 (Reply 22):
Reading the responses here, I can't help but think that all you guys are saying that if you're a single mother you shouldn't have a chance at a relationship.....she has a kid, avoid her like the plague?

In some of our cases, we don't want to put a kid (or kids) through some of the same feelings and emotions we've gone through in the past. My mom and dad divorced when I was 6. My dad remarried when I was 10 and my mom remarried when I was 11. During those periods, I met most if not all of the people they dated and at times really did get my hopes up that they would marry that person. I don't want to break a kid's heart, as I know that pain.
 
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 10:28 am

Quoting Kmh1956 (Reply 22):
she has a kid, avoid her like the plague?

Absoultely not.

I dated one like that and let me say this: I hope the father pays his child support. I also hope he spends time with kids and isn't a drunk. My ex had a kid and her ex b/f, the father, beat her in front of me. I broke with her for this reason. Trust me, if the father is a asshole like that, she probably wants a good role model for the kid so he/she does not grow up like that.

Good luck and let us know how you do.

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 10:31 am

Quoting MCOflyer (Reply 30):
dated one like that and let me say this:

You dated a woman with a kid? I thought you are like 16 years old?
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 10:34 am

Quoting Srbmod (Reply 29):
During those periods, I met most if not all of the people they dated and at times really did get my hopes up that they would marry that person. I don't want to break a kid's heart, as I know that pain.

When it's said that way, I understand it, but some of the responses were....shall we say...a bit harsh? My daughter's father had twin boys with another woman less than 5 months after we separated ("I was never unfaithful to you"....uh huh), she dumped him and then he remarried another girl less than two years later. I have never remarried....probably because a lot of the men I met had the same attitude that I've seen here. (Not yours)

Her father, known in my family as either "It" or "Bobo the Sperm Guy" practically abandoned her once he had his boys.....I guess having a girl wasn't on his macho agenda. So it was left to me to raise my daughter pretty much on my own....no child support, no father figure (except for a wonderful teacher in high school who took her and another kid under his wing)...

My attitude was...I'm a package deal. I have a child. If you can handle that, great. If not, don't let the door hit you on the ass on the way out. I guess most of the men I met back then were of the 'door in the ass' type. However, my daughter managed to grow into a lovely, unspoiled young lady who has just graduated from college with a BA in Theater and Dance, has a great boyfriend and has just received her green card to work in the USA for a year (OPT something-or-other). So I guess I did OK after all, huh?
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 10:35 am

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 31):

You dated a woman with a kid? I thought you are like 16 years old?

I'm 20 and I was 18 when I dated her. She was 16.

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 10:36 am

I think we need pictures
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 10:41 am

Quoting Kmh1956 (Reply 32):
So I guess I did OK after all, huh?

You did wonderful. Congrats and hope you find your superman.

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 10:46 am

Quoting MSPGUY (Reply 16):
Just remember if the relationship goes sour, the friendship is most likely out the door. Being with a woman in a relationship and a friendship are two different ball games.

I've done it and lost a very good friend.

Me too. Your post is completely right.


Dating moms though, ain't nothing wrong with that. As long as you don't have a friendship in there that you're going to screw up. Sometimes it can be confusing (to both people) what you really want. The wrong path just makes the guilt over a wrecked friendship become ridiculous. Aiiieeee...
 
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 10:50 am

Quoting Kmh1956 (Reply 22):
if you're a single mother you shouldn't have a chance at a relationship.....she has a kid, avoid her like the plague?

Oh no, I am sure she can find some sucker to take care of the child of the "other father." But I will never date a single mother. Nothing against her, I just don't want to be responsible for a crumb-cruncher who's not mine. If I am in a relationship, I want the equal attention she gives; and that is having to be taken up alot by the kid... who's not mine...

Quoting N174UA (Reply 26):
Women say they want the nice guy who's polite and holds the door open. But that's a lie. It's the asshole who they sleep with and get pregnant by. The she becomes a bitch for the rest of her life and blames all men for all their problems.

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 10:58 am

Quoting N174UA (Reply 26):
Women say they want the nice guy who's polite and holds the door open. But that's a lie. It's the asshole who they sleep with and get pregnant by. The she becomes a bitch for the rest of her life and blames all men for all their problems.

Wow, another person who knows what's up. This is so true. I'm single and the women I treat like dirt (because I have to to get rid of them) are the ones who keep begging me to spend the rest of eternity together, and i mean come on! I dont even like you, get over it. Why are people so damn crazy. But I am the exact same way, can't deny it.
 
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 11:00 am

Quoting AirTran737 (Thread starter):
To top it all of she has a one year old son

If this doesn't send up a red flag the size of Alaska, I don't know what will.

Quoting AirTran737 (Reply 4):

We are three years apart, whats wrong with that?

Nothing. There are many issues that should steer you away from this, but age is absolutely not one of them.

Quoting AirTran737 (Reply 8):
The fact that we are airline folk is a factor that can negate the long distance issue.

That is also not an issue.

Quoting AirTran737 (Reply 8):

I am a step child, so I have some experience in dealing with the situation. It's a tough role to step into, and not every one can do it.

Sure, but here is your problem. It is not as if you are both in your mid-30s, where kids are fairly likely to be in the picture and both of you have experience, not to mention the kid being able to fend for themselves. Here, you are talking about a kid that is still a baby at a time in your life where you should have no expectation of jumping into such a situation.

Quoting HowSwedeitis (Reply 13):

Oh so he just all of a sudden became one huh?

That joke flew right over your head.

Quoting MaidensGator (Reply 20):

If you have to ask this question then the answer is no....

Best advice so far

Quoting MCOflyer (Reply 33):

I'm 20 and I was 18 when I dated her. She was 16.

That is so bad in so many different ways.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 11:16 am

Quoting Nosedive (Reply 21):
You need to be more perverted when you read comments about assholes



Quoting N1120A (Reply 39):
That joke flew right over your head.

Oh now I get it... Dammit!! Your all perverted! Lmao...  Embarrassment  silly   smirk 
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 11:26 am

Quoting MCOflyer (Reply 33):
I'm 20 and I was 18 when I dated her. She was 16.

I don't practice law but, is that not illegal?
And that is kind of messed up..Why would you want to get involved with someone who can't even buy a pack of smokes, yet has a kid?
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 11:40 am

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 41):

I don't practice law but, is that not illegal?

Depends on where you are.
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 12:08 pm

Quoting N1120A (Reply 39):

That is so bad in so many different ways.

Its been so long I can not remember but I clearly remember dumping her 2 times and engaging in anything. I learned from my previous mistakes and will not repeat them. I learn from my mistakes.

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 12:12 pm

Quoting MCOflyer (Reply 43):

Its been so long I can not remember but I clearly remember dumping her 2 times and engaging in anything.

I meant to say I did not go that far. She lied and other things were happening.

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 12:16 pm

Quoting Bill142 (Reply 11):

If she did, I doubt she'd have a kid

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 12:20 pm

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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 12:24 pm

Quoting MCOflyer (Reply 43):

Its been so long I can not remember but I clearly remember dumping her 2 times and engaging in anything. I learned from my previous mistakes and will not repeat them. I learn from my mistakes.

Did you get her pregnant?
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 12:36 pm

Quoting JGPH1A (Reply 5):
3 years is nothing, it should be no handicap.

When your my age 14, a girl being older than you is weird. It doesn't feel right. But Still do what feels right.  Smile
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RE: Should I Date This Girl?

Mon Aug 20, 2007 1:19 pm

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 47):
Did you get her pregnant?

No. I never did the deed with her.

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