Hello. Maybe my problem is that I am too good of a friend but here is the story! One of my old college friends and I have been trying to meet up and hang out. To give a little bit of a background we both got done the college at the same time (he dropped out, I went and became a Flight Attendant but eventually went back). We met through our ex-girlfriends (they shared a dorm together) and continued a friendship after we got broken up with ever since.
We use to meet one a week and have coffee, watch WWE (both wrestling fans)watch tv and just chat. Sometimes we'd go to a local fast food joint to grab a bite to eat. While being based away from home during my yr as an FA I couldn't visit as often but we always set a night aside when I was home. I think we hung out more when i was 600-1000 miles away then when I was 30 and sometimes doing my studies 5 miles away from his place.
The problem is he keeps on canceling on me and in my opinion I don't find it right. Before I go any further and get the "maybe he doesn't want to hang out with you" replies, that is not the case. He is genuinely interested in hanging out, I've called it on him before and he was hurt and got pissed. From what I can understand he usually works 8-5 at a factory unloading suits from a truck and counting them. Yes, that is a physical job, but he is 25 years old. From what I gather, he goes home from work at 5pm, has dinner, takes a shower and then goes to bed by 9. Not docking his living arrangements but he lives with 5 guys in their mid 60's so its not like he is throwing parties or blasting his music.
We mostly communicate via text and during his break on the specific day that we are scheduled to meet he'll text me saying that A) he has to work overtime and doesn't know when he'll get out so we can't hang but he is very sorry and hopes we can do it another day. b) he is tired cause he didn't sleep very well last night. I can expect this maybe 75% of the time. I understand he has a full time (40 hour) job but other than that he doesn't do much of anything. I am somewhat concerned for him at 25 years old he shouldn't "shut down for the day" at 5:30pm. I, on the other hand work about 32 hours a week and take 2-3 college classes a semester (depending on the semester) along with flying lessons. I've always tried to make time for him and never canceled on my side. I always try explaining that its ok because we are both tired and just chatting in his room for an hour or two is perfectly fine. How do I approach this or should I leave it be? I am kinda concerned for him as I don't think any 25 year old should live like this.
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Edit: first for spelling and then I thought the topic could be a little more specific.
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