kiwiandrew

Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sat Jul 18, 2009 11:37 am

I cant help but notice that there are several threads on the topic of " person XYZ passes" and I wonder why the euphemism ?

Don't people die anymore ?

Personally when I go I dont want people tiptoeing around the subject ( although of course when I am dead I wont actually be in a position to comment on it ) .
 
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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sat Jul 18, 2009 12:10 pm

Is it just me... or did you tiptoe around the subject as well??

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Personally when I go

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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sat Jul 18, 2009 12:13 pm



Quoting StealthZ (Reply 1):
Is it just me... or did you tiptoe around the subject as well??

Quoting Kiwiandrew (Thread starter):
Personally when I go

touché ! ... and wouldnt you know it , I am just outside the 'edit' DEADline


Ok , to rephrase without use of euphemism :

when I die , I dont want people tiptoeing around it
 
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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sat Jul 18, 2009 12:18 pm

The simple, yet complex, reason, in my opinion, is that when someone says the word die or dead or whatever, they are forced to face their own mortality.
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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sat Jul 18, 2009 12:45 pm

As someone in the funeral business, I prefer to use the phrase "pass away" versus "die". "Die" to me tends to be a little harsh. In my business, while we don't tend to tiptoe around death, we do attempt to make it a little more palatable, so to speak. I mean, people don't tend to visit a funeral home for grins and giggles, so we want to make their experience (as bad as it is) as comforting and reassuring as possible. So if the term "pass away" makes it a little easier to stomach, then I'm okay with it. Just as an aside, most hospitals, when they call us to come pick someone us, use the word "expired". Milk and cheese expire - not people.
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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sat Jul 18, 2009 1:05 pm

Different ways to say the same thing; some think it is more polite, some are just used to saying it one way or another. Doesn't really matter - you know what they're talking about.
 
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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sat Jul 18, 2009 4:09 pm



Quoting Kiwiandrew (Thread starter):
Don't people die anymore ?


I'm going out on a limb here... Maybe it has to do with the circumstances. My sister died due a self inflicted gunshot wound. It is/was violent and extremely traumatic. There was nothing peaceful about the event. I normally use the word "passed" when the end of a person's life was expected.


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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sat Jul 18, 2009 10:13 pm

Must be something with the English speaking world though. In Germany, we mostly say "dead" and don't use any other word to avoid "dead", obviously in German. We try to avoid being "PC" about it, because it seems to me that avoiding the word "dead" in English is because otherwise, it's simply not "politically correct", even if "dead" is spot on accurate. That's just me speculating though.

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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sun Jul 19, 2009 12:42 am

I plan to croak, myself.

Not for a long time though, I hope.
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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sun Jul 19, 2009 3:27 am

The funeral business itself, at least here in the USA, uses so many euphemisms:

"Casket" is the word we use for what really is a coffin; the word "casket" comes from a French word describing a box for jewelry or other valuable items. Our caskets are fancy, frilly metallic or wood boxes (usually rectangular, with domed lids) costing as much as a used car (or in the case of Batesville Casket Company's "Promethean" gold-plated bronze casket, which Michael Jackson now lies in; this costs as much as a new US-made car).

In the UK and Europe, I have seen simpler, wooden coffins with anthropoidal or hexagonal shapes, which are more elegant in their simplicity. I would really rather be buried in a simple, Anglo/Irish-style wooden coffin (see Remeire, http://www.remeire.com ) or one like the Trappist monks at New Melleray Abbey in Iowa build (Trappist Caskets, http://www.trappistcaskets.com ).

In a US funeral home, the embalming room is called the "preparation room"; the casket (I mean coffin) showroom is called the "selection room" where coffins are arrayed like luxury cars in a showroom; the room where the wake is held is called a "chapel"...the list goes on.

Even the US hearse has been called often a "funeral coach"!

Do funeral homes in Europe have similar euphemisms or practices?

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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sun Jul 19, 2009 3:49 am

Idk alota people dance around I guess passes just makes it sound more peaceful.
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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sun Jul 19, 2009 4:50 am

Just listen to the news, when something unexpected happened to someone or a violent death they say XXX died today, from gunshot etc.. But when someone who was 95 years old dies they say passed away etc.. But really I see the news using died a lot more. I think the circumstances do matter. It is just a nicer way to say it that's all.
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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sun Jul 19, 2009 4:59 am

Because in Christianity death doesnt exist. Death is just a way to defeat death. The term ´´past out´´ should be used better.
 
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RE: Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"

Sun Jul 19, 2009 5:43 am

I typically say my brother died. I'm not afraid of the term or death itself it's all very natural to me. Although passed on to me indicates moving on to the next phase of existence. I don't believe death is final I think it is the start of something better.
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