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Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 4:31 pm

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage...643393/Boy-12-turns-into-girl.html

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BOY aged 12 turned up at school as a GIRL - after changing sex during the summer holidays.
Teachers called an emergency assembly to order fellow pupils to treat him as female.

The lad, whose parents have changed his name to a girl's by deed poll, arrived in a dress with long hair in ribboned pigtails. He is preparing for sex-swap surgery.

What do you think? My opinion is that it's absolutely irresponsible for parents to endorse something like this - we're talking about a 12 year old kid! Sex reassignment is hard enough for adults. This doesn't make any sense.
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 5:56 pm



Quoting ManuCH (Thread starter):
My opinion is that it's absolutely irresponsible for parents to endorse something like this

Well the article did say the kid has been wanting to be a girl for a while. It doesn't seem like the parents forced it upon him.

I don't like how the whole situation is being handled though. I loathe PC and "sensitivity training" but now this poor kid is gonna be subjected to bullying and ridicule. If I was the parents I would've removed the kid from school, due the surgery, and then put the kid in some other school.
 
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 6:09 pm



Quoting ManuCH (Thread starter):

What do you think? My opinion is that it's absolutely irresponsible for parents to endorse something like this - we're talking about a 12 year old kid! Sex reassignment is hard enough for adults. This doesn't make any sense.

In the United States, the general policy is that, in the absence of a congenital abnormality of the genitalia, sexual reassignment surgery should not be performed on patients under the age of 18.

There is an argument, however, for the above procedure. If the child has been adamant from a young age, in spite of socialization to the contrary, that he is actually a girl, then it would be very traumatic to force him to go through male puberty.

Here's the current thinking into what is going on in this disorder. During prenatal development (in the womb), the brain is either exposed to testosterone or it is not. If it is not exposed, it develops into a female brain. If it is exposed, it develops into a male brain. Male and female brains are inherently different at birth and at all points after that.

In this case, this boy's brain must have completely failed to masculinize (for whatever reason), leading to a female brain stuck in a male body. This is thought to be the underlying Gender Identity Disorder. It's very, very rare. It is diagnosed clinically by patients reporting a history of "always knowing" that they were the wrong sex.

Either way, SRS is a horribly traumatic experience, but so is not getting SRS. It's a terrible, terrible disorder and I urge everyone to learn about it before making judgements about these unfortunate people.
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 6:21 pm

I think it is way too young for such a drastic procedure and life change. I mean dressing as a girl is one thing, but a sex change at 12? I mean they haven't even developed yet. Maybe they should encourage him to wait until he's older to consider the procedure again so that he doesn't make any hasty moves, plus, if he would wait the people around him and his peers would be able to comprehend this change better than schoolchildren who might be confused enough.
 
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Fri Sep 18, 2009 6:25 pm



Quoting DocLightning (Reply 2):
In the United States, the general policy is that, in the absence of a congenital abnormality of the genitalia, sexual reassignment surgery should not be performed on patients under the age of 18.

It's the same in Germany IIRC, only that the wording says that it cannot be performed before the age of 18. I remember a case, where the boy felt like a girl and was taking hormone therapy until such time that he/she is old enough. Until then, someone who does want a sex change, can only take hormone therapy.

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I think it is way too young for such a drastic procedure

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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 6:30 pm

Some parent want attention drawn upon themselves, and sometime children provide the best vehicle to do so.

Obviously the parents enabled the kid to get to this point.
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 6:30 pm



Quoting DocLightning (Reply 2):
During prenatal development (in the womb), the brain is either exposed to testosterone or it is not.

Interesting. So going by this theory, by default, all fetuses have, or would have, a "female" brain? And it's just due to lack of testosterone? Estrogen doesn't come into play at all?
 
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Fri Sep 18, 2009 6:34 pm



Quoting FLY2HMO (Reply 6):

Interesting. So going by this theory, by default, all fetuses have, or would have, a "female" brain? And it's just due to lack of testosterone? Estrogen doesn't come into play at all?

Yes. In mammals, female seems to be the default state. In the absence of a masculinizing stimulus, the body and brain will develop as female. In other species, male might be the default state.

Estrogens are important in the regulation of the female reproductive system, but not in turning a developing fetus into a female. After all, every single fetus develops in an estrogen bath (a uterus). In fact, at birth, some female babies have bloody discharge and some even make milk from their nipples because of the effects of maternal estrogens.
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 6:36 pm



Quoting DocLightning (Reply 7):
In fact, at birth, some female babies have bloody discharge

Well, that explains a LOT now Big grin
 
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 6:41 pm

Thank you Doc for the interesting explanation about the disorder.

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 2):
It's a terrible, terrible disorder and I urge everyone to learn about it before making judgements about these unfortunate people.

Just for the record, in case my original post was mis-interpreted, I'm not judging these people. I only think that parents shouldn't endorse (but neither repress!) this kind of wish. Wouldn't it be better to just "let live"? I mean, endorsing a name and identity change (even without surgery) is a risky choice for parents. What if they were all wrong? Isn't it best left to when the kid turns 18? When you're 12, I think it's hard to take decisions. Or not?

My argument is only about responsibilities. I absolutely don't want to judge people with Gender Identity Disorder. But what if the parents are wrong and the 12 year old wasn't really sure of what he wanted?

These are real questions, no provocations, as it's a very unknown field for me (and for most people I suppose).
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 7:34 pm



Quoting ManuCH (Reply 9):


My argument is only about responsibilities. I absolutely don't want to judge people with Gender Identity Disorder. But what if the parents are wrong and the 12 year old wasn't really sure of what he wanted?

It's very true and that's why I would be ethically uncomfortable with taking a knife to the kid. But there are two sides to this argument and I am presenting the other side. I don't think a surgeon who does this should necessarily be de-licensed and carted off to flip burgers for the rest of his life. As our understanding of GID changes, so will our treatment. For all we know, doing the surgery before puberty kicks in might be standard of care in a few decades.

At this point, it seems as if she is still pre-op. I use the female pronoun because the general consensus is that when a patient assumes a female role, dress, and identity, she should assume a female pronoun (or vice-versa).

Now, let me drag the thread off-topic for a moment, but every day, literally tens of thousands of infants just a few days are subjected to an irreversible and purely cosmetic procedure that has no clear health benefits. This procedure is done under minimal anesthesia and, of course, without the consent of the patient (it's hard to get a child less than 10 days old to sign the forms).

Can anyone guess what this surgical procedure is?

If it's not OK to perform elective surgery on a 12yo who requests it, why is it OK to perform elective surgery on a newborn who doesn't want it?
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 7:42 pm



Quoting DocLightning (Reply 11):
Can anyone guess what this surgical procedure is?

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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 7:47 pm



Quoting DocLightning (Reply 11):
Now, let me drag the thread off-topic for a moment, but every day, literally tens of thousands of infants just a few days are subjected to an irreversible and purely cosmetic procedure that has no clear health benefits. This procedure is done under minimal anesthesia and, of course, without the consent of the patient (it's hard to get a child less than 10 days old to sign the forms).

Can anyone guess what this surgical procedure is?

Circumcision?

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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 7:54 pm



Quoting ManuCH (Thread starter):
What do you think? My opinion is that it's absolutely irresponsible for parents to endorse something like this - we're talking about a 12 year old kid! Sex reassignment is hard enough for adults. This doesn't make any sense

With kids gettting younger and younger (apparently the real age varies by society) when having their first real sexual intercourse - and kids hardly significantly older getting pregnant, I think this 12-yr old kid is not too young for this decision, IF it is properly diagnosed and verified.
Caring parents that are supportive is a big plus here - however, if this all should be for pure publicity, it should be condemned to the ultimate level.

Like one poster said earlier, making this very important decision before puberty kicks in, really makes sense. The alternative to wait until he/she is 18, might have some legal backgrounds, but surely would mean 6 years of mental hell which as well could have lots of negative effects.
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 9:57 pm



Quoting Dtwclipper (Reply 11):

I know, I know! A circumsision.



Quoting SmithAir747 (Reply 12):

Circumcision?

Yup. Discussion for another thread, huh.

Quoting HT (Reply 13):
Like one poster said earlier, making this very important decision before puberty kicks in, really makes sense. The alternative to wait until he/she is 18, might have some legal backgrounds, but surely would mean 6 years of mental hell which as well could have lots of negative effects.

Remember how much puberty sucked? Imagine having to go through the other gender's puberty.

This is why there's no correct answer to this ethical question and there never will be. Anyone who claims to have THE correct answer should probably be ignored.
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Fri Sep 18, 2009 11:32 pm



Quoting DocLightning (Reply 10):
If it's not OK to perform elective surgery on a 12yo who requests it, why is it OK to perform elective surgery on a newborn who doesn't want it?

I guess any response to that question would be controversial, because it will also involve religion. Circumcisions are part of both Jewish and Muslim culture. For those who circumcise their kids without their consent, just for aesthetic reasons, it's very difficult to say why they're motivated, but I personally do wonder more why in religion, circumcision is such a big deal. Fact is however, that until the child has come of age, he or she has no say whatsoever and is at the mercy of the parents, or the person under whom the kid is in custody. In a nutshell: Parents can pretty much do as they please with their kids, the only thing that limits them is the law.
 
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Sat Sep 19, 2009 3:47 am



Quoting DocLightning (Reply 2):

Thanks for the US policy.

There was a story on Australian TV last week.

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This is a story that at first glance seems quite unbelievable. It's about a little girl called Jazz. She's only eight years old and she was born a boy.

She is probably the youngest transgender child in the world. For years, Jazz felt something was wrong, that somehow she was trapped in the wrong body. So she decided to dress and live as a girl.

And even more controversially, her parents accepted it.



Quoting DocLightning (Reply 10):
If it's not OK to perform elective surgery on a 12yo who requests it, why is it OK to perform elective surgery on a newborn who doesn't want it?

What about in Africa.
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Sat Sep 19, 2009 4:21 am


He wore a bikini instead of trunks at swimming lessons, dried himself on Barbie towels, rode a pink scooter to school and wore pink ribbons in his hair.


Man, what a way to get crucified by the jocks at school!
After reading the article, I don't think this kid had a sex change operation, he just started dressing as a girl and decided to become a girl. So basically he's a transvestite.

BTW, what is a "deed poll"?
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Sat Sep 19, 2009 4:30 am

Well The Sun is reporting another case;

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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Sat Sep 19, 2009 5:37 am

In Finland you get a lot of androgynists. It's hard to tell what sex they are.

It's a shame these young kids can't use that state until they are adults and then commit to a sex.

For a boy to know he feels like a girl inside at such an early age must be quite a powerful feeling.
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Sat Sep 19, 2009 5:43 am



Quoting DocLightning (Reply 7):
In fact, at birth, some female babies have bloody discharge and some even make milk from their nipples because of the effects of maternal estrogens.

It sounds incredible but it's true. By daughter is 10 months now but for a few weeks after birth she was discharging small amounts of milk from her left breast. We were a little surprised when the doctor told us it was of no concern and that her female hormone levels were just elevated.
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Sat Sep 19, 2009 10:19 am



Quoting Type-Rated (Reply 17):
BTW, what is a "deed poll"?

It is a legal process here in the UK, whereby a person can legally change their name. They complete the forms, pay the fee required, and their name is legally changed.
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Sat Sep 19, 2009 6:06 pm



Quoting LTU932 (Reply 15):

I guess any response to that question would be controversial, because it will also involve religion.

So superstitious beliefs are a valid indication to perform elective surgery on a non-consenting newborn.

Interestingly, the above statement, as absurd as it is, is completely true at the present time.

Moving right along...

Quoting Type-Rated (Reply 17):

Man, what a way to get crucified by the jocks at school!
After reading the article, I don't think this kid had a sex change operation, he just started dressing as a girl and decided to become a girl. So basically he's a transvestite.

That's like arguing that I became gay because I started experimenting with guys and liked it. It's backwards. I started experimenting with guys and liked it because I was gay. This kid started dressing like a girl BECAUSE she thought she was one. NO 12-year-old boy would make that decision out of the blue.

I think of it in terms of three axes:
1) Biological sex (which is typically binary, if you leave out people with congenital malformations)
2) Gender identity (do you identify as male or female?)
3) Gender expression (do you have a more masculine demeanor or a more feminine one?)

Each of us falls at a different place on each of these spectra. For me personally, I identify as male and have a male gender identity and male gender expression. My good friend, a flaming queen of a gay guy, has a male sex and male gender identity, but a very feminine gender expression. I know a drag queen who is just like me, totally male-identified, but to him, drag is a hobby and a chance to slip on a skin in which he isn't as comfortable.

And then there was my professor of neurobiology, and M.D., Ph.D. whose biological sex was female, but his gender identity was male. And so Barbara became Ben and if you met him in person, you'd never know it today.
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Sat Sep 19, 2009 6:14 pm

OFF TOPIC!!!

Quoting Aaron747 (Reply 20):

It sounds incredible but it's true. By daughter is 10 months now but for a few weeks after birth she was discharging small amounts of milk from her left breast. We were a little surprised when the doctor told us it was of no concern and that her female hormone levels were just elevated.

Well, it was her mother's hormones, but yeah, we warn parents having their first girl that a bit of milk from the breasts or a bit of discharge (bloody or not) from the vagina is totally normal for the first week or so. In boys, the nipples can come out pretty swollen.

One of the best middle-of-the-night calls I ever got went as follows. Now, the first thing you have to understand is that this is in the Bronx and the dad who was calling me sounded like a pretty rough-and-tumble, blue collar, meat and three veg sort of guy with a thick Bronx accent (which just made it all even more hilarious).

Me: "Hello, this is Dr. G of Jacobi Pediatrics. How can I help you tonight?"
Dad: "Hi, Doc, um... I'm sorry to bother you, but I've got a problem here."
M: "Sure, what's wrong?"
D: "Well, my son is 5 days old and I was up because it's my turn to change the diaper and...well..."
M: "Yes?"
D: "Um... boys ain't supposed to have tits, are they?" (Mind you, it's about 2:30 AM)
M: mutes his phone so that Dad can't hear the laughter

Once I'd pulled myself back together, I tried and tried and tried to convince this guy that it was normal. I went through the physiology with him and everything. Mind you, it's now about 2:45 AM. And after all that, I'm STILL not sure I convinced the poor young dad that night.

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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

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Quoting DocLightning (Reply 22):
So superstitious beliefs are a valid indication to perform elective surgery on a non-consenting newborn.

I did not pass any judgement on that in my remark. In fact I do not understand why circumcision is such a big deal in a religion. I was born a catholic myself and was never circumcised. I could not even imagine the pain I would have gone through as a baby had my parents done that to me. I do agree with you, circumcision should only be done once the kid is legally old enough to consent himself (read: once he is an adult).
 
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Quoting Babybus (Reply 19):
In Finland you get a lot of androgynists. It's hard to tell what sex they are.

Hmmm, could you open this a bit more...?
Some of my foreign friends have noticed Finnish women behave kind of manly, comparing to Southern-Europe especially.

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Quoting LTU932 (Reply 24):

I did not pass any judgement on that in my remark.

I was simply pointing out the absurdity of the fact that your statement is actually true. It wasn't meant as an attack against you or what you said and I sincerely apologize if it read that way.  Smile

Quoting Andaman (Reply 25):

Some of my foreign friends have noticed Finnish women behave kind of manly, comparing to Southern-Europe especially.

Yes, but the ones in Southern Europe don't have to behave manly. They already grow mustaches and chest hair.  duck 
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Sun Sep 20, 2009 1:19 am

Since when does a 12 year old have a valid opinion about his or her health care? A child of that age is too young to understand basic health care decisions. It's insane to put them in control of drastic lifelong decisions like that.
 
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Quoting Flighty (Reply 27):
Since when does a 12 year old have a valid opinion about his or her health care? A child of that age is too young to understand basic health care decisions.

As a pediatrician and a representative of both the American Academy of Pediatrics and the Society for Adolescent Medicine I strongly disagree with this statement.

At that age, it is reasonable to expect a child to 1) understand his or her condition 2) understand why the treatment is necessary 3) assent (not consent) to the treatment. Any child of age 12 who cannot do the above, by definition, is developmentally abnormal.

Teens (anyone ages 10-20) have a right to participate in their healthcare decisions. They do not have a right to consent to treatment for non-reproductive issues or to refuse life-saving treatment. However, in a situation where there might be more than one valid option for treatment, a teen should be involved in the decision.

Quoting Flighty (Reply 27):
It's insane to put them in control of drastic lifelong decisions like that.

On the other hand, I DO agree with this statement. But it appears that, in this case, the child was working with a number of adults who all have her best interests in mind. Remember, you don't know the details of the case and nor do I.
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Quoting DocLightning (Reply 26):
Yes, but the ones in Southern Europe don't have to behave manly. They already grow mustaches and chest hair. duck

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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Sun Sep 20, 2009 2:35 am

Is it possible to change sex twice?
 
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Quoting DocLightning (Reply 28):
assent (not consent) to the treatment. Any child of age 12 who cannot do the above, by definition, is developmentally abnormal.

Sounds fine, of course I will defer to you on that, my friend. This has been a source of (some) debate in (certain) cases. A famous recent case was the (learning disabled) boy of 11 or 12 who refused chemotherapy, influenced by his parents. In such a case, I would suggest the boy's (and parent) opinions did not really matter. The medical establishment unanimously said the boy needed treatment.

But I have heard a slightly different shade as well (like your words), that a 13 year old who does comprehend her situation, and does not wish for more chemotherapy, has some right to refuse treatment. Does she have the right to get breast implants because she as a 13 year old feels that sort of cosmetic procedure is agreeable to her, I would say no. Fortunately, experts like you can determine how the rules change as adolescents become adults. Sometimes, people are going to push too far on this.
 
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Quoting DocLightning (Reply 23):
Me: "Hello, this is Dr. G of Jacobi Pediatrics. How can I help you tonight?"
Dad: "Hi, Doc, um... I'm sorry to bother you, but I've got a problem here."
M: "Sure, what's wrong?"
D: "Well, my son is 5 days old and I was up because it's my turn to change the diaper and...well..."
M: "Yes?"
D: "Um... boys ain't supposed to have tits, are they?" (Mind you, it's about 2:30 AM)
M: mutes his phone so that Dad can't hear the laughter

Off topic again but huh-larious!!

You guys in pediatrics see your fair share of horror stories, but you no doubt collect a lot of funny ones too. But seriously, five days and that was the first he'd seen of his kid?
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

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Quoting Flighty (Reply 27):
Since when does a 12 year old have a valid opinion about his or her health care?

I would certainly hope that a 12 year old is entitled to his/her own opinion on health care!

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 28):
Teens (anyone ages 10-20) have a right to participate in their healthcare decisions. They do not have a right to consent to treatment for non-reproductive issues or to refuse life-saving treatment. However, in a situation where there might be more than one valid option for treatment, a teen should be involved in the decision.

This brings up another (yes, slightly off-topic) issue: can parents deny treatment to a teen? Sometimes questions come up about certain religions who don't accept blood transfusions and stuff, and about parents who let their kids die because of this.

I think/hope the answer to my question is a "yes", but still, I'd like to ask: can a 12 year old say "yes, cure me!" even if the parents say "no, don't cure him, our religion doesn't allow it"?
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ManuCH: As a result of several media-covered cases that went up to ultimate court decision, doctors are legaly bound to use the available cure (typically, blood transfusion) despite parents and/or patient denial.
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Mon Sep 21, 2009 10:34 am

If I had to go through the operation from man to woman I had rather have it done before my body starts being hairy and showing too many virile features. So I think it is a nice decision from the parents not to wait until the process becomes even more complicated. I would have changed the school though.
 
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Quoting ManuCH (Reply 33):

This brings up another (yes, slightly off-topic) issue: can parents deny treatment to a teen? Sometimes questions come up about certain religions who don't accept blood transfusions and stuff, and about parents who let their kids die because of this.

A parent cannot deny a child immediately life-saving treatment on religious grounds. For small children, if the parents refuse to consent to a treatment that we consider necessary, we sometimes have to wake up a judge at 3AM to sign a court order bypassing the parents' consent. I've had to do this with Jehova's witnesses. I've never had it come up with a teenager, but I *HAVE* had parents refuse to tell (or allow me to tell) their teenager that he has congenital HIV or cancer or another diagnosis that the kid really needs to know about. I usually work with the parents in this case on why this is so important and how we can break the news. Usually, the kid already has it figured out, anyway.

Now, what happens when a 16yo refuses life-saving treatment? Well, it varies. Sometimes, the court orders the treatment. In a recent cancer case where the teen had already undergone multiple rounds of chemotherapy and wanted to be treated in a natural Mexican clinic, instead, the courts flopped back and forth before allowing him to choose his own treatment.

So there is no one single answer in complicated cases, which is why they're complicated. But if it's a case of massive blood loss in a birth and a baby needs a transfusion and the parents say "no," that's not allowed. Religion is not an accepted excuse for neglecting a child.

Quoting Flighty (Reply 31):
Does she have the right to get breast implants because she as a 13 year old feels that sort of cosmetic procedure is agreeable to her, I would say no.

No, because no patient, regardless of age, has a right to demand futile treatment. A child cannot consent to ANY medical treatment, barring a reproductive issue.

So if you come to me and demand antibiotics for your stuffy nose, I'm not giving them to you. But if a 15yo comes in with strep throat and wants penicillin, I can't give it to her without her parents consent. However, that same 15yo with syphilis, I *can* treat without parental consent, at least in New York, California, and Michigan (the three states in which I've practiced).
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RE: Boy, 12, Turns Into Girl

Tue Sep 22, 2009 2:26 am



Quoting DocLightning (Reply 10):
Now, let me drag the thread off-topic for a moment, but every day, literally tens of thousands of infants just a few days are subjected to an irreversible and purely cosmetic procedure that has no clear health benefits.

You may even have a case, but in order to make it, please don't create baseless arguments.

There are health benefits - reduction in rate of HIV transmission is the main one. Depending on the case, circumcision is not "purely comestic". I agree that circumcision should not be done purely on the parents' request though.

As for the 12 year kid, there was another case recently shown on TV where the child was much younger than that and completely identfied himself/herself as a female from his/her personality onset. Life is a messy thing.
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