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Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:03 pm

Anyone out there have any experience stopping or sabotaging weddings? I need some advice on the best techniques.

I have a family member that is engaged to man that just got out of jail for drug trafficking. No one in our family is in love with the idea but we thought "she is a grown woman and can do what she wants" up until her engagement party this past weekend. Now we have resolved to stop this wedding by any means necessary.

It was the most appalling event I have ever attended in my life. His ex-girlfriend (who the heck invited her?) gets up during the toasting period and starts taking about (i am paraphrasing ... she was much more graphic) how he was the best lover she ever had and no one ever made her scream like he did and that she hopes my family member enjoys it. It gets worse. Then his cellmate from prison gets up and starts talking about how the fiancee "took care of him when he was missing his girl" and "was the only one on the inside that made him full like a full man." I (and just about everyone else I know) took this to mean that they were gay lovers in prison. The restaurant had grown silent in shock by this point but somehow this revelation flew completely over my family member's head.

I just shook my head.
 
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:09 pm

You can't without causing serious rifts between you and her.

Have you actually sat down with her and talked about it with a level head? You might just say as long as you're married to this man I will not be a part of your life- period.
 
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:09 pm

Sorry, but I promise that there is nothing you can do. Anything you do will make the situation worse.

Besides, I think your only options for guaranteed success would involve homicide. Now, you might be thinking: "Well, gee, there's an idea!"    But I would point out that such a course of action would expose you to certain bureaucratic and legal hassles to a degree that it's probably not worth it.  

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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:14 pm

Just level with her. If she does not catch the drift and disagrees, so be it.
However there can be many mitigating details that are not being presented here.

The above seems like a setup for tragedy. She is marrying an ex-con that is still buddies with his ex, and ex-cellmate.

Not to delve into her history much, but is she being abused or not dealing with a full deck?
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:14 pm

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 2):
Besides, I think your only options for guaranteed success would involve homicide.

Don't bother with that. Just get him to violate his parole. If you want to be humane about it you can do the same to the shower buddy so he won't get lonely.
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Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:33 pm

Just be honest:

"We love you and that is why we are saying this: We do not think that this guy is for you.Love is based on honesty - we are just letting you know how we feel about this situation That being said, you are a grown woman and you can make whatever choice you want and we will support unconditionally you whatever that choice is. We want you to be happy/."
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:34 pm

Quoting BMI727 (Reply 4):
If you want to be humane about it you can do the same to the shower buddy so he won't get lonely.

  

BMI, get over here and clean up the chicken salad you just made spit all over my monitor.
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:38 pm

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 6):
BMI, get over here and clean up the chicken salad you just made spit all over my monitor.

Just call them over for a guys' night (maybe don't use those words, exactly, just get them to hang out with you) and do a couple lines. Then drop a dime to the parole officer and it's done. Who knows, enough quality time with the Ticklemonster and maybe he'll forget about the girl entirely.
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Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:45 pm

Quoting BMI727 (Reply 7):
Just call them over for a guys' night (maybe don't use those words, exactly, just get them to hang out with you) and do a couple lines. Then drop a dime to the parole officer and it's done. Who knows, enough quality time with the Ticklemonster and maybe he'll forget about the girl entirely.

OK, stop, dude. I'm hyperventilating here!

Um... how do you know so much about this?

BTW, I'd make it smoke a few joints, rather than do a few lines. THC has a much longer half-life for detection in the urine than cocaine.

I mean... I don't actually recommend any illegal activity or drug use.   
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:45 pm

Are you nuts? If that all really happened do *NOT* try and stop this wedding. It could turn into one of the best nights of your life and you'll have plenty of stories for years.
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:58 pm

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 8):
BTW, I'd make it smoke a few joints, rather than do a few lines. THC has a much longer half-life for detection in the urine than cocaine.

Coke's a little bit classier. I'm sure they wouldn't want to come off as being trashy.

There's also a scenario where they live happily ever after in Happy Valley, PA. Some illicit rhythmic slapping sounds don't seem to be a big hangup for people there.
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 9:02 pm

Quoting BMI727 (Reply 10):
I'm sure they wouldn't want to come off as being trashy.

Dude, I think they passed "Trashy" about 3,000 NM back.

Quoting stlgph (Reply 9):
If that all really happened do *NOT* try and stop this wedding. It could turn into one of the best nights of your life and you'll have plenty of stories for years.

You know, he does have a point...
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Mon Oct 08, 2012 9:08 pm

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 11):

Quoting stlgph (Reply 9):If that all really happened do *NOT* try and stop this wedding. It could turn into one of the best nights of your life and you'll have plenty of stories for years.
You know, he does have a point...

I think this is true. Maybe this should be shopped to Jerry Springer. It has all the makings of a great trash show.
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 9:20 pm

Quoting usflyer msp (Thread starter):
"she is a grown woman and can do what she wants"

This.

All you can do is talk to her about it. If she doesn't want to listen, let her go. The only other way to stop it is by doing something illegal, and there's no reason for your family to be dragged down that low by her stupidity. Instead of one person throwing their life away, you will be throwing yours away as well pursuing this vendetta.

I've recently made the decision to cut off contact with a significant chunk of my extended family, because I'm watching what happens when you try to fix something (or someones) that doesn't want to be fixed. It sucks, but if they're not going to put their well-being first and take me with them... I'm not having it.
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 9:58 pm

Quoting Maverick623 (Reply 13):
I've recently made the decision to cut off contact with a significant chunk of my extended family, because I'm watching what happens when you try to fix something (or someones) that doesn't want to be fixed. It sucks, but if they're not going to put their well-being first and take me with them... I'm not having it.

     

This.
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 9:58 pm

Quoting casinterest (Reply 12):
Maybe this should be shopped to Jerry Springer.

Will Jerry take a case that doesn't include at least one transvestite?
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Mon Oct 08, 2012 10:19 pm

Quoting Maverick623 (Reply 13):
I've recently made the decision to cut off contact with a significant chunk of my extended family, because I'm watching what happens when you try to fix something (or someones) that doesn't want to be fixed. It sucks, but if they're not going to put their well-being first and take me with them... I'm not having it.

And that, as they say, is pretty much that.

You can express your concerns, you can yell, scream, cry, you can do whatever you think it might take. But ultimately, the only thing you can control is your own actions. And that might mean you simply have to let go and not be a part of her life, if this is the way she is going.
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 10:38 pm

This sounds like a comedy on TV !! Seriously though nothing anyone can do people have to make their own mistakes in life and if she is an adult she has to learn the hard way .
 
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 11:00 pm

Quoting usflyer msp (Thread starter):
Anyone out there have any experience stopping or sabotaging weddings? I need some advice on the best techniques.

Well you have to consider if you are trying to disrupt the setting the wedding is to take place in, or if you are trying to impact the people attending, or the happy couple themselves.

You can do things that affect the location arrangement, the person with the marriage authority etc. With guests you can disrupt what they do to get to site or whether they plan to attend at all (emails that suddenly copy everyone can be effective). This same thing can be done between the happy couple if you can get one or the other to starting finding out about the dirt of the other one (though it sounds she and he are already so dirty as more won't matter). Arguments may ensue and things may get called off. Who knows.

While the naysayers here are right that you ultimately can't stop someone that is determined to get married, you can do a lot that will ruin a carefully planned day. And sometimes that can either create the friction needed to break things up or give the time needed for things to change. Bad weddings days do lead to a greater chance of a marriage ending. Also don't forget that depending on how obviously involved you are, you may be a pariah in future family events. Though it sounds like that might actually be desirable.

But do think about what you are doing and whether it is worth it versus the chances it will work. It certainly is a mean thing to do in most situations and will likely be seen as such. And don't forget that terrible marriage choices have been made throughout history and somehow most people manage through them. Sometimes the happy couple surprise everyone and go one to a great marriage and wonderful family. And other times the marriage ends and the parties involved move on (but not always to better choices).

In other words: You will probably be better off letting things happen and letting the chips fall where they may (though I know how you feel, it is hard to watch a family member make what you believe/know is a bad choice. Take it from someone that has watched something similar in his own family. Two "minuses" together only make a positive for certain in mathematics, not life).

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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 11:05 pm

Quoting BMI727 (Reply 15):

Will Jerry take a case that doesn't include at least one transvestite?

There's a male-male-female triangle going on here. That's unusual enough that Jerry might just be interested...

Quoting mt99 (Reply 5):
"We love you and that is why we are saying this: We do not think that this guy is for you.Love is based on honesty - we are just letting you know how we feel about this situation That being said, you are a grown woman and you can make whatever choice you want and we will support unconditionally you whatever that choice is. We want you to be happy/."

Oooh! Guilt! I like it! You aren't Catholic or Jewish, perchance, are you? Because that was actually very good!

But it's true. You can light the wedding hall on fire the night before and make their nuptial bed with cayenne pepper, but if they're determined to go ahead, then it is what it is.

BTW, I know of a few bisexual men who are married and whose wives knowingly let them pursue their "other interests" on the side (let's not discuss how I know these men...  angel&nbsp Wink. I also know of fully open marriages. There is no one rule about how a marriage works and what works in my marriage may or may not work in yours.

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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 11:39 pm

The way it sounds, either this "family member" is not quite mature enough to make decisions on her own, or she's just unfixable.
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 11:39 pm

Maybe do some research to see if he is still legally married and not divorced. He can't legally get married to your sister unless he is legal to do so.
Check with his parole officer to see if he is meeting his conditions of parole.
Get all of your family and her real fiends together and make it clear they will not attend any functions related to the wedding or the wedding itself, not one will give any gifts or money if she chooses to continue to marry this jerk. Just everyone just disown, ignore or withdraw any way to reach them.
Also make it clear that if she makes the decision to withdraw from marrying him, welcome her back with open arms and all legal ways to protect her.
 
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Mon Oct 08, 2012 11:45 pm

I can see 2 ways of going about this:

Option #1: tell her how you feel, show her you care, etc like everyone has said. Low odds of it working but if it does, the problem will be fixed for good

Option #2: plan a way to sabotage the wedding. Pretty high odds of getting this to work, probably at the expense of your standing with this family member, the criminal/fiancee will be pissed and you might get whacked (or by the sounds of this guy, whacked ...... eh, won't go there   ) and in the long run, the problem won't be solved and they'll just plan another wedding, without you and probably many others, and if/when they do divorce, she'll still be pissed you didn't do option #1.

Following on to Option #1, assuming it doesn't work, don't pester her but let her know you still support and love her. If/when they divorce, be the first one to be there for her, NOT as an in-you-face/told-ya-so douche but with actual support, maybe dropping subtle references about how he's no good. JMO
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 1:22 am

Thanks for the replies everyone. We feel as though the time for talking is over, as the wedding is 12/12/12. It is time for action. We realize that she might be angry with us at first but e think she will get over it as she realizes that we saved her from herself. Her brother actually sends her link to his mugshot and record on the FL Dept of Corrections website at least once a week just to remind her of what she is getting herself into.

Quoting casinterest (Reply 3):
Not to delve into her history much, but is she being abused or not dealing with a full deck?

She is overweight and has some resultant self-esteem issues but other than that she is normal.

She actually left the (okay) guy that is the father of her 11 year-old daughter for this guy. Let him move into her house, let him traffick drugs through her house which eventually led the police to raid her house and arrest both them both (she got away a plea deal and probation) and then actually waited 8 years for him to get out of prison.

Quoting armitageshanks (Reply 1):
Have you actually sat down with her and talked about it with a level head?

I am the closest person to her in the family besides her brother and we have had this discussion several times over the last 8 years.

Her reasons for wanting to be his wife boil down to this:

* He makes her feel special
* He is anatomically gifted and dynamite in the sack
* Everyone has a past and he has changed his ways
* She is in her 30's and no one else is interested in her
* She wants a man to help her raise her daughter
* She can help him with his kids (4 kids with 4 different women)
* She doesn't care if he can't find work - she makes enough to take care of him
* She has invested too much time and money in him to give up now (She is actually paying for laser treatments to remove his facial tattoos before the wedding)

It is really sad.
 
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 1:42 am

Quoting usflyer msp (Reply 23):
waited 8 years for him to get out of prison.

Oh wow, I just assumed it was one of those 1 month relationships to marriage... 8 years is pretty tough to undo, prison or not
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Tue Oct 09, 2012 1:43 am

Quoting usflyer msp (Reply 23):
She actually left the (okay) guy that is the father of her 11 year-old daughter for this guy. Let him move into her house, let him traffick drugs through her house which eventually led the police to raid her house and arrest both them both (she got away a plea deal and probation) and then actually waited 8 years for him to get out of prison.

I'm sorry man. All jokes aside, there is nothing short of killing the man that is going to end this relationship. And I am of the firm opinion that wishing that someone would die is not a sin; acting on it is. Given that you aren't going to do that (I hope!), there is nothing you can do. She waited eight years for him to get out of prison. If she couldn't come to her senses in eight years, you aren't going to talk sense into her.

You do have options (other than homicide).

1) You may choose to express your unconditional love to her, explain that you think that she is making a horrible choice, even explain why, but tell her that you will stand by her no matter what happens.

2) You may choose to explain to her that you love her a lot but you simply cannot bear to watch the results of this action and you are choosing to dismiss yourself from her life, but will always be there for her if she changes her mind. And wish her the best of luck.

Quoting usflyer msp (Reply 23):
* He is anatomically gifted and dynamite in the sack

And apparently doesn't mind men... So after you somehow convince her to drop him, could I please have his number?     

Quoting usflyer msp (Reply 23):
We feel as though the time for talking is over, as the wedding is 12/12/12. It is time for action. We realize that she might be angry with us at first but e think she will get over it as she realizes that we saved her from herself.

I don't know who "we" is but I can see no other option other than removing this man from the picture, and I can't think of a way of doing that which doesn't involve a felony. I hold it as a truth that you simply cannot protect people from themselves, nor should you.
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 2:37 am

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 24):
Oh wow, I just assumed it was one of those 1 month relationships to marriage... 8 years is pretty tough to undo, prison or not

Yup, I had assumed it was relatively short-term as well.

Honestly, I don't know why you guys are still around for the wedding.

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her 11 year-old daughter

Damn, how does her daughter feel about all this? I'm guessing she might be a bit screwed up....no offense intended, but that's a lot to take in 11 years.
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Tue Oct 09, 2012 3:12 am

You might be in for a surprise:

My daughter (who moved to the US when she was ten with my ex, who had married an American after our divorce), ran away from home when she was 16. During this time she got involved with a Mexican street gang (the Nortenos, I know that there should be a tilde over the n, but I don´t know how to get it on my keyboard). Being half Filipina, half German, she wasn´t accepted by both the Whites and the East Asians (I don´t know why in the US you tend to categorize people by races so much), but was accepted by the Mexicans, mainly because she looks a bit like one. She mainly didn´t get along with her mother.
During this time she committed some petty offenses, like shoplifting and spent some time in juvenile detention.
She also fell for fellow gangster, a guy in his mid-to -let twenties, who was on probation after having done time for drug dealing.
Just before she got 18, she got pregnant of him, which technically would have been statuary rape in the state they lived in.
Everybodywas worried about her because of his history.
But in fact both of them broke with the gangs (he at no little risk for himself, because is former friends considered him to be a traitor and tried to kill him, when my mother went over to visit them, she found that his car was full of bullet holes).
They moved to another state, where he got himself a job as a construction worker (and eventually got promoted to foreman). He turned out to be a loving and responsible family father, who is taking good care of my daughter and their kids.

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Tue Oct 09, 2012 4:19 am

Quoting usflyer msp (Reply 23):
Thanks for the replies everyone. We feel as though the time for talking is over, as the wedding is 12/12/12. It is time for action.

Who gets married on a Wednesday*, that should be reason enough to make sure this doesn't happen  .

Make sure everyone in the family goes to work.

* It occurs to me that this might be at a resort, possibly you can get enough people to not go and cancel your reservation if you have one. Also report this guy's record to the country it is in so they turn him away.

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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 6:36 am

Quoting MD11Engineer (Reply 27):
Just before she got 18, she got pregnant of him, which technically would have been statuary rape in the state they lived in.
Everybodywas worried about her because of his history.
But in fact both of them broke with the gangs (he at no little risk for himself, because is former friends considered him to be a traitor and tried to kill him, when my mother went over to visit them, she found that his car was full of bullet holes).
They moved to another state, where he got himself a job as a construction worker (and eventually got promoted to foreman). He turned out to be a loving and responsible family father, who is taking good care of my daughter and their kids.

Those people-- the 47%-- they take no responsibility for themselves.

 
 
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Tue Oct 09, 2012 7:08 am

Why hasn't someone said "Have superfly go after the girl" yet   

Quoting BMI727 (Reply 7):
Then drop a dime to the parole officer and it's done. Who knows, enough quality time with the Ticklemonster and maybe he'll forget about the girl entirely.

   Oh my god

Quoting usflyer msp (Reply 23):
* She is in her 30's and no one else is interested in her
* She wants a man to help her raise her daughter
* She can help him with his kids (4 kids with 4 different women)
* She doesn't care if he can't find work - she makes enough to take care of him

Ohhhhhhhh dear god -_-
this is what Match.com is for -_-
First of all, with all of that attitude, she's only gonna find some abusive dick who is probably going to cheat on her every single day.
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Tue Oct 09, 2012 8:14 am

Quoting usflyer msp (Reply 23):
We realize that she might be angry with us at first but e think she will get over it as she realizes that we saved her from herself.

Highly unlikely. Listen to the people posting in here....
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Tue Oct 09, 2012 8:17 am

First off, this thread is already on track to a.net "Legend" status! Having said that:

Quoting usflyer msp (Reply 23):
Let him move into her house, let him traffick drugs through her house which eventually led the police to raid her house and arrest both them both (she got away a plea deal and probation) and then actually waited 8 years for him to get out of prison.

Right here, this is where mt99's suggestion needs to be tried, along with outlining the above detail. Remind her of the prices she's already paid for this relationship. Point out that - like it or not - his past will always be an anchor around their collective necks, and she'll be forced to pay for it in one way or another going forward. Point out that she's not only marrying him, but his family...and that includes the 4 other women he's fathered kids with.

And then, if you REALLY want to drive home your point, advise that you're unsure you'd be comfortable with your kids (or future kids, if you don't yet have any) around him.

Full disclosure: as others have said, you may not ultimately reach her. My wife and I have good friends who are in the same boat; their 25 year old daughter is about to marry an older guy with no job (because his band "is gonna make it!"), a child with another woman, a record, and absolutely zero ambition because she pays for everything. Despite their pleas, despite their warnings, despite their logic and fact-based arguments to turn back from this course, she's dead-set on marrying this man and they've reached the point where they now wonder whether or not their continued warnings will alienate her from them completely, and they're grudgingly accepting this is how it's going to be.

Say your peace, but be prepared to hear her choose him over you and the rest of the family.
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 9:36 am

Sounds like an epsiode of some reality tv program, seriously let her marry the guy, they might actually be in love with each other, you just don't know it could work. If it doesn't there is always divorce, she's ovviously old enough to know what she's getting into so if I was you and wanted to have a relationship with her in the future I'd butt out.

Quoting PHX787 (Reply 30):
Why hasn't someone said "Have superfly go after the girl" yet

She's probabvly not fat enough for Larry, he likes em big, he likes em chunky.
 
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 9:47 am

I understand you mean well, but sometimes you've got to think about the other person as well. If she feels so strongly about this guy (8 years and waiting), then I'd try and acknowledge that there's something more here than just a passing fling, and let her marry this chap. She'd be happy (for a while if nothing else), the child will have a father (of limited value, but better than nothing?), and the chap's 4 other children will have a mom and another sibling.

If the lady's doing well enough at work to run the household, she's probably smart enough to know what she's getting into.

Nothing wrong in swinging both ways - otherwise A.net would be a haunted house by now  . Sure - I wouldn't want that kind of talk at the engagement, but now you should make sure you don't get an entertainer/ band for the wedding - the ex-con's friends will do just fine .
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 3:08 pm

I would say that you've missed your boat on this one.

The opportunity for you to convince her to move on was while he was in jail, and towards the start of the term. Now, convincing her 2 months before her wedding, will almost feel like a slap in the face. She just wasted 8+ years waiting for him, and now you are trying to convince her.

And if you tried to convince her earlier, then you either didn't try hard enough, or there is absolutely no convincing her, and you won't be successful now.

How much do you know this man personally? Not from what people say, or his criminal record, but how much time have you spent with him. If not a lot, then you never know, he might have changed for the better.

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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 3:27 pm

Quoting usflyer msp (Reply 23):
She actually left the (okay) guy that is the father of her 11 year-old daughter for this guy. Let him move into her house, let him traffick drugs through her house which eventually led the police to raid her house and arrest both them both (she got away a plea deal and probation) and then actually waited 8 years for him to get out of prison.

Yeah, you're screwed.

The only chance you have (for what you desire) is that the longer they live together the more likely they will get on each others nerves and separate (but that goes against their desires). The time in prison was a perfect "fantasy time" for the perfect fantasy relationship to grow and blossom in her mind. For eight years she kept and built this fantasy, about how perfect and great things would be once he got out. Now they can get married and everything will be perfect! Really impossible to fight that fantasy with anything but the reality of her living with him.

Also, his love is "unconditional" so she runs to him. I am sure he tells her he loves her no matter what and for just who she is, while you and your family have obviously placed conditions on things, told her she is wrong, and highlighted that she could/will lose you love depending on what shes odes. His love is certain and unconditional, your love isn't. And who wants that?

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You might be in for a surprise:

It is actually always possible. The world is a very strange place.

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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 4:10 pm

Quoting usflyer msp (Thread starter):
Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 6:30 pm

Quoting usflyer msp (Thread starter):

You could also let the wedding go off as planned and spend the whole time making smartass comments like "This wine is great. Which toilet did it come from?" or "Now he finally gets to be the guy."
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 7:36 pm

Just think of how much fun the holidays will be!

LOL!
 
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 10:01 pm

So your overweight low self esteem single parent relative with a drugs conviction is about to marry a bisexual heavily tattooed drug dealer with 4 children by 4 mothers, who is on good terms with his last girlfriend who publicly extols his sexual performance and you want to know what steps to take ?

The simple answer is take as large a steps as you possibly can, as far away from this car crash as possible.

Halt the wedding and the best you can hope for is that she will never speak to you again, worst case is that you end up on a mortuary slab.
 
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Tue Oct 09, 2012 10:08 pm

Quoting usflyer msp (Reply 23):
* She is in her 30's and no one else is interested in her

...because she's wasted 8 years waiting on him.
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Wed Oct 10, 2012 2:00 am

Great story!

Quoting usflyer msp (Thread starter):
His ex-girlfriend (who the heck invited her?) gets up during the toasting period and starts taking about (i am paraphrasing ... she was much more graphic) how he was the best lover she ever had and no one ever made her scream like he did and that she hopes my family member enjoys it. It gets worse. Then his cellmate from prison gets up and starts talking about how the fiancee "took care of him when he was missing his girl" and "was the only one on the inside that made him full like a full man." I (and just about everyone else I know) took this to mean that they were gay lovers in prison.

Just ask them for advice. Sounds like are much cleverer than you at sabotaging this wedding! That's black belt-level sabotaging right there. Go big or go home.
 
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RE: Best Way To Stop A Wedding?

Wed Oct 10, 2012 3:41 am

Quoting Flighty (Reply 42):
Just ask them for advice. Sounds like are much cleverer than you at sabotaging this wedding! That's black belt-level sabotaging right there. Go big or go home.

Hmm... I hadn't thought about it that way.
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