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Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 6:15 pm

....sooooooo as advertised, yet another meaningless love stor-ehh to be scrutinized by the ranks o' Anet. 

Here goes nuttin': I have long known a really sweet and nice lady (that is cliche' fodder, right?) and we really get along AMAZINGLY well. She lives here in my town, however is also a US Marine and travels a lot, PLUS she is currently taken. We flirt all the time, and we even have pet names for each other. She has said she would die for me, because she cares so much for me, and she has vastly appreciated the welcomed the mutuality of the emotion. We even Skyped on video chat at midnight on New Years Eve and I introduced her to all of my relatives, which she loved.

And here is where it gets interesting: next month when she gets really interesting: we are going on a road trip next month. Will be starting here in town and then heading to the lake house where I live part time with two uncles , staying overnight, and from there on to a pretty romantic small local town by the name of Fredricksburg.

I am DYING to use the trip to spill my heart and soul to her, but not sure if I or the ettiquite of the doing so.

Your all's thoughts?  


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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 6:29 pm

Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):
Your all's thoughts?  

my thoughts:

Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):
she is currently taken

Stop it. I've been on the other side of this, it's not fun and it's not right.


If that is not enough to get you to stop (it should make any decent person stop) I'll just share a quick story. My wife's best friend started hanging out with a guy whose gf was at Army basic training. She would go on motorcycle rides and it was really suspicious. Everyone she talked to said she was an awful person and needed to stop. She also claimed she wasn't gonna do anything, but if he was single she'd go for him. She eventually kept going and basically alienated all of her friends. Before she stopped talking to me, I told her:

"he's being sketchy and hanging out with you while he's taken, he can do the same for you."

Fast forward, he dumps the gf, and then my friend and him get together. Very low. But the best part was a few months into their new relationship, she spends spring break at his mom's house with him, and he decides he wants to go "see his dad" (at his house.) So he's gone and comes back the next day. Turns out, he was actually at a hotel with his ex! My friend and him break up and he gets back with the ex. Ultimate karma. My friend is really ashamed, and we are on good terms, but now she learned her lesson, though we don't mention it.

Her being with someone else should be a reason enough to stop it, or at the very least, make her break it off with the other poor guy. I hope you never get in the situation you are creating, OP, it is a lousy feeling, and you should be ashamed of yourself
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 6:34 pm

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 1):
Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):
Your all's thoughts?

my thoughts:

Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):
she is currently taken

Stop it. I've been on the other side of this, it's not fun and it's not right.

      

Why are you even considering this? If she wants to be with you, she is the one who has to act and not be taken anymore.

I'm also curious how her significant other feels about you two going on a road trip.
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 6:40 pm

Let's look at the big picture here- She's currently "taken" by another guy, yet she's "very flirty" with you and is willing to go on a romantic road trip with you. Are you ready to accept the possibility, nay probability, that one day when/if she's "taken" by you she'll be "very flirty" with another guy and will be planning to take a romantic road trip with him? Also consider what you're going to do when the guy by whom she's currently "taken" decides to confront you, possibly in a dark parking lot with a few of his buddies along for backup.

The way I see it, right now you're standing on a railroad track with a fast-moving freight train getting closer and closer every second and you're asking if you should spread your arms and try to embrace the train or just step off the tracks and let it go speeding by.

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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 6:52 pm

Actually from what I hear, the trip was HIS idea; along with a story that I recently went on an RV road trip she wishes she could have been on........HOWEVER.......that being said: point taken everyone. Thanks for the advice. I'll be careful.  
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 7:00 pm

Just so I get this right, you made all of your relatives pass by one by one by the camera on Skype to introduce them to this girl who can't be your girlfriend?

No. For the love of god, no. Not only will that be an uncomfortable car ride, but that will only make it worse.
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Sat Jan 12, 2013 7:09 pm

Yup. If she's taken then don't do it - it's a rotten thing to do to someone, no ifs or buts.
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 7:26 pm

Quoting KAUST (Reply 4):
Actually from what I hear, the trip was HIS idea

Did she tell you that?
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 8:24 pm

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 1):
My friend and him break up and he gets back with the ex. Ultimate karma. My friend is really ashamed, and we are on good terms, but now she learned her lesson, though we don't mention it.

I really hope that a recent similar story will turn out the same for me.

Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):

Act in such a way that your actions can serve as a universal law for the whole mankind. Think about it, and have a beer with one of Europe's foremost philosophers. Big grin


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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 8:45 pm

Quoting vikkyvik (Reply 7):
Quoting KAUST (Reply 4):
Actually from what I hear, the trip was HIS idea

Did she tell you that?

That was gonna be my question but Vikkyvik beat me to it. Unless you heard him say that live, in person, and with your own two ears, don't believe it.
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 9:00 pm

Quoting KAUST (Reply 4):
Thanks for the advice. I'll be careful.

You don't want to end up in a ménage à trois....

unless you don't mind

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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 9:41 pm

Buy her a snow globe...otherwist don't go on A-net for dating advice
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 10:03 pm

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 1):

Fast forward, he dumps the gf, and then my friend and him get together. Very low.

Why would that be low? She wasn't getting the job done, and she got let go. That's all I see.

Quoting vikkyvik (Reply 2):

      

Why are you even considering this? If she wants to be with you, she is the one who has to act and not be taken anymore.

I think I agree with this. I'm a firm believer that most people who get cheated on have it coming for one reason or another, so I would never pass the kind of judgement some folks seem to enjoy doing here. Having that been said, KAUST, the question really is how much do you want to be involved with all that? If it were me, and I really liked/had to have, etc, her that much, I'd insist that she dump the turkey she's seeing first. Cleaner that way, plus you know you're not just being used as her "emotional cheat"*.

Quoting KAUST (Reply 4):
I'll be careful.  

Good call. Like I said, your best bet is to get her to clear that other wreck off her runway first, so to speak, and then go for landing rights.

If you think you can make that happen before your trip, that's really what you want to have happen.

Quoting flyingturtle (Reply 8):
Think about it, and have a beer with one of Europe's foremost philosophers. 

This is an idea that sounds like it never hurt anyone,  



* What's this, you may ask. I'll tell you if you want (just wanted to keep my reply short is all), but it's bad news. And honestly, kind of what this looks like...
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sat Jan 12, 2013 11:15 pm

Quoting Darksnowynight (Reply 12):
Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 1):

Fast forward, he dumps the gf, and then my friend and him get together. Very low.

Why would that be low? She wasn't getting the job done, and she got let go. That's all I see.

I could go in details if you want. I get where you are coming from but it wasn't like that. She was creeping and the girlfriend was in basic training of all places. Instead of waiting for a break up she crossed the line
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Sun Jan 13, 2013 1:02 am

Quoting vikkyvik (Reply 2):

This sounds just like my thread with my buddy's ex. Not a good idea.
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sun Jan 13, 2013 2:12 am

Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):
PLUS she is currently taken.

I gotta say. Step away.
However, I am curious... where is this other person if you are skyping and flirting?

If it was me , and my girl was flirting, I would be pissed off.
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Sun Jan 13, 2013 2:20 am

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 14):

I could go in details if you want.

I'm sure it isn't necessary. There are surprisingly few variations on this theme.

I am curious though... Why do you think it matters a damn that broad A was in Basic? Joining the military is pretty much asking to get cheated on.

Part of the reason I don't do full-on committed relationships is that it's unreasonable to ask a woman to try and keep up with my schedule. Based on experience, it's slightly more demanding and a bit less predictable than what you find in the military, but the concept holds up the same. Did this not occur to your friends' girl before she volunteered?

I will say, as I did above, that I think it's unwise to involve oneself with an involved party. That isn't for moral reasons (which IMO really just amounts to jealousy with a halo); I just don't like a mess. But there's nothing wrong with getting that party to un-attach itself first.
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sun Jan 13, 2013 3:48 am

Quoting Darksnowynight (Reply 18):
I am curious though... Why do you think it matters a damn that broad A was in Basic? Joining the military is pretty much asking to get cheated on.

Hardly makes it right, does it?

Quoting Darksnowynight (Reply 18):
Did this not occur to your friends' girl before she volunteered?

Well we went to a military school so most of us were in the military. Not saying that military couples make long lasting relationships often, but sleezing around isn't right (actually, my wife and I are both military officers and are making it work)

Quoting Darksnowynight (Reply 18):
But there's nothing wrong with getting that party to un-attach itself first.

The way she was going about everything was pretty bad, but yeah, I'd prefer it if she wasn't hitting on a taken guy.

Trust me, I know exactly where you are coming from, and I agree with your argument. But it wasn't like that, it was wrong and she knows that now herself.

Question: do you think OP should be doing what he's doing to a taken woman? I still think this option is kinda sleazy, but it's better: make her break up with the bf or stop pursuing her
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sun Jan 13, 2013 4:05 am

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 22):

Question: do you think OP should be doing what he's doing to a taken woman? I still think this option is kinda sleazy, but it's better: make her break up with the bf or stop pursuing her

I don't see anything wrong with it, per se. Like I said, I think it's asking for trouble, and personally, I do not deal with other people's problems.

But, if it's less complicated than all that, then sure, go for it. The OP may not be looking for a long term deal, and in this case, she could be very well suited for it. But, if he has feelings for her, as indicated, it's really better to push that other guy overboard first.

What KAUST needs to figure out is whether this is worth it or not. This broad is obviously his for the taking. The real question is does she like him enough to do this smoothly and cleanly, or will she continue to equivocate with him. If the former, he just needs to encourage her to make the space. If the latter, he needs to decide if he's only worth being a spare boyfriend. Life 'aint always easy that way...

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 22):
Hardly makes it right, does it?

Doesn't make it right (or wrong), just makes it what it is. I personally wouldn't mess with a woman who's attached to gov't property like that, but again, this is not a moral issue. Such women have a nasty tendency to feel all guilty about these endevours, at very inconvenient times (even though, truth be told, they are being somewhat neglected), and I really don't have a lot of patience for that bag.

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 22):
Not saying that military couples make long lasting relationships often, but sleezing around isn't right (actually, my wife and I are both military officers and are making it work)

Hmmm... Married? Your profile says you're a young dude, and you're in the Navy. Alright, well at least you picked the right branch. I'll spare you more of what you've undoubtedly heard about your odds, given your age and profession, and just wish you luck instead. You'll need lots of it.
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sun Jan 13, 2013 4:11 am

Quoting Darksnowynight (Reply 23):
Hmmm... Married? Your profile says you're a young dude, and you're in the Navy. Alright, well at least you picked the right branch. I'll spare you more of what you've undoubtedly heard about your odds, given your age and profession, and just wish you luck instead. You'll need lots of it.

Hahaha I know, I've heard a ton about it. I'll add that she is a 12 hour drive away from me too, and will be for at least a year at a minimum   We are pretty content people and we're doing fine. We've been with each other for 4 years next month, but I've seen longer divorce so I guess that doesn't really prove much... well in 20 years I'll PM you and tell you if we're still together, deal?  

About OP, I'm just not a fan of girl stealing. She's either not faithful or just very, very friendly, I'm leaning towards the former. I'm against poaching girls, but you are right... it seems like the girl and her bf aren't meant to be. But OP should not be flirting and adopting pet names while she is still together. I'd still look down on it, but it would be a million times better if he told her to break it off with him or knock it off all together. It just ain't right IMO
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sun Jan 13, 2013 4:25 am

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 25):
About OP, I'm just not a fan of girl stealing

As we all should be. It's highly immoral behaviour.
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sun Jan 13, 2013 7:07 am

Sorry but the original post looked like it was written by an 18yr old Anetter who never had any , not somebody in the 36>45 age bracket


Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):
We flirt all the time, and we even have pet names for each other. She has said she would die for me, because she cares so much for me

So sweet to see that

Wake up you fool, she is

Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):
she is currently taken

Grow up act your age, your brains in the head on your shoulders. Unless she dumps the guy she is with, and not just being a prick tease with a guy who has fallen for it, give up

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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sun Jan 13, 2013 7:29 am

Quoting Darksnowynight (Reply 12):
I'm a firm believer that most people who get cheated on have it coming for one reason or another, so I would never pass the kind of judgement some folks seem to enjoy doing here.

He/she may have it coming, but it doesn't make it right. Break up with him/her first, then you can go sleep with whomever you want. And you won't have to hide it!

I've been cheated on once; maybe she thought I had it coming, but I sure didn't (and still don't). Just don't do it; you're NOT going to help anything.

That's my view, anyway. Along with that, it takes two to cheat, assuming the 3rd party knows what he/she is doing.
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sun Jan 13, 2013 12:49 pm

Have to agree with the rest, if she is taken do not do anything and rather leave. It is not fair to the other person, nor to you as I am sure that you have bigger moral standards than that!

There is a golden rule that I follow: Bros before hoes!

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 1):
I've been on the other side of this, it's not fun and it's not right.

   Never cheated, but have been on other side as well. Not fun at all.

I did learn one thing from it though. Long distance relationship are destined to fail.   
 
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sun Jan 13, 2013 4:22 pm

Adam,

You can't do that to someone else. She is taken! Open your eyes. She is playing you like a deck of cards!!! I'm sure she doesn't care about you but cares more about the other person in her life. I don't know what your story with her is and how long you guys have known each other but you are better off finding someone else.

Just giving my 2 cents.

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Sun Jan 13, 2013 4:26 pm

Sorry, KAUST..... But I must ask: what makes you think that she's even into you at all while she's currently taken? Just because you and her hang out a lot, it doesn't mean anything.

The way I'm seeing it, you're just a "friend" to her. No more, no less. I suggest you forget this girl and look for someone else. This whole scenario spells disaster.

My advice? STOP HANGING OUT WITH HER!!!!

Quoting andrej (Reply 30):
There is a golden rule that I follow: Bros before hoes!

That is a very tired and abused line that only goes so far to an extent. And this isn't a college dorm, Andrej.
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sun Jan 13, 2013 5:51 pm

KAUST...

You are in the friendzone. It is a real thing. There is such a thing as a friendzone. You will share much more than anyone else on the planet with her. Have pet names and all that. Even flirt all the time. But you are in the friendzone.

One does not escape the friendzone unfortunately.

My advice, and i'm sorry in advance for saying so:

Make your intentions clear to her. You will be faced (99% probability of this happening) with rejection. This will remove you from the friendzone but also from her "friends". Then stop hanging out with her. You still have that 1% though.
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Sun Jan 13, 2013 7:04 pm

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 1):
Your all's thoughts?

Your all's? Wow.

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 1):
she is currently taken

Agreed stop it. You being a d-bag isn't going to get her. You are just spending your time getting your hopes up while screwing over some other dude.

Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):
Will be starting here in town and then heading to the lake house where I live part time with two uncles , staying overnight, and from there on to a pretty romantic small local town by the name of Fredricksburg.

Until she dumps him, leave her alone.
 
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Sun Jan 13, 2013 7:05 pm

Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):
PLUS she is currently taken.

Stop. Reverse thrust. Abort takeoff.

She needs to get her sh!t together. If she wants to be with you, then she dumps him. Until that time, you make no other moves. You stay friendly, professional, and distant.

There are other women in the world just as beautiful as this one who don't have attached men. Go after one of them.
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Sun Jan 13, 2013 8:31 pm

Read DocLightning's post immediately above. Succinct, proper advice, well-stated.

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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Sun Jan 13, 2013 10:20 pm

Quoting 3DoorsDown (Reply 27):
You are just spending your time getting your hopes up while screwing over some other dude.

....and your friends and her friends, too...... If I may add. This will not end well for you, KAUST. Trust me, it won't if you don't stop pursuing her. Your reputation is on the line here. Don't look like an ass.

Quoting AF1624 (Reply 26):
One does not escape the friendzone unfortunately.

That so true. Once you are really good friends, it generally stops there and can go no further. If you tell her how you feel about her, the friendship will be strained beyond repair, and that leads to you looking like a complete ass, KAUST. So, to prevent this, the following advice MUST happen if you still want any sort of friendship with her:

Quoting 3DoorsDown (Reply 27):
stop it.

Agreed. Don't pursue anything with her if you really value your friendship and your reputation.
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Sun Jan 13, 2013 11:33 pm

Taking a new beau out for a test drive is pretty low. Either she's with the other guy or she's not...full stop. Before starting a new relationship, decency, (and being a marine, honour), dictates that she end the old one first.

...and here's the rub; if she's willing to cheat on this other guy, (whom she presumably loved with all her heart at some point), what's to say she wouldn't do that to the next guy...?

Look at it this way; what if her guy was a friend of yours...would you do it then? Imagine how you'd feel if you trusted your woman enough to be ok with her travelling with another dude and she broke that trust by screwing around?

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Mon Jan 14, 2013 5:57 am

Quoting AirframeAS (Reply 25):
That is a very tired and abused line that only goes so far to an extent. And this isn't a college dorm, Andrej.

Let's agree to disagree, as in this situation this line applies perfectly. You simply don't 'take over' someone else's significant other. You don't have to apply this to only a college scenario.  
 
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Mon Jan 14, 2013 4:25 pm

Quoting andrej (Reply 32):
as in this situation this line applies perfectly

No, it doesn't. KAUST is trying to steal somebody else's girl. That's not Bros before H*es, at all.
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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Tue Jan 15, 2013 5:54 pm

Soooo um is there any update or is this thread going to the toilet without an answer?

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RE: Yet Another Anet Love Dilemma......

Tue Jan 15, 2013 6:36 pm

Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):
PLUS she is currently taken

Oh man. I must say its not worth it. This coming from personal experience of being with an engaged woman for the better part of 6 months. In the moment you think "oh hey this may work out" or maybe she says things that would lead you to believe. But in the end it probably won't. If you were a better fit and/or person she would have left him by now. If you can go into with the mindest of just to get laid and have fun by all means. Also a matter of your morals and how you feel about the situation. But if you really like this girl and hope for something I wouldn't. I look back on my own experience of a similar situation and laugh but not everyone can do so. Best of luck man
 
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Tue Jan 15, 2013 8:18 pm

Quoting mikeology (Reply 35):
This coming from personal experience of being with an engaged woman for the better part of 6 months.

Wait, you were dating a girl who was engaged to someone else? That's pretty despicable...
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Tue Jan 15, 2013 8:31 pm

Quoting mikeology (Reply 35):
This coming from personal experience of being with an engaged woman for the better part of 6 months.

Wait.... Did you know she was engaged before you started dating her or....did you find out after 6 months of dating her. If you knew she was engaged before starting to date her, then I agree with the following:

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 36):
That's pretty despicable...

  . You're probably lucky you didn't get your sorry ass kicked by the guy she was engaged to, Mikeology!!!
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Tue Jan 15, 2013 8:36 pm

Quoting AirframeAS (Reply 37):
  . You're probably lucky you didn't get your sorry ass kicked by the guy she was engaged to, Mikeology!!!

Well creeping on his a.net profile and seeing his FB account, it seems like he wouldn't get his ass kicked lol. But really man, I'm not really a fan of girl stealing but sometimes 2 people are meant to be even if one of them is in a relationship... but at least wait until relationship #1 has broken off before, well, screwing the other guy over! It's only right...
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Tue Jan 15, 2013 8:50 pm

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 38):
I'm not really a fan of girl stealing but sometimes 2 people are meant to be even if one of them is in a relationship... but at least wait until relationship #1 has broken off before, well, screwing the other guy over! It's only right...

This is why I have a rule that says "If the girl just got out of a relationship within the last 11 months, RUN!!!!" I know that's kinda a pretty high standard but it keeps the drama to a minimum so that I don't have to deal with the girl's ex.
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Tue Jan 15, 2013 9:08 pm

Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):
small local town by the name of Fredricksburg.

Is that Fredericksburg, TX? Because if it is, ya'll are in for a nice treat. I was out there a few years ago, during the summer. Hot and hot. First place in the U.S. that I ever drank a beer on the streets, legally. I know, there may be others, but that's the only one I have ever been to.

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Tue Jan 15, 2013 10:04 pm

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 36):
Wait, you were dating a girl who was engaged to someone else? That's pretty despicable...

Not my proudest moment

Quoting AirframeAS (Reply 37):
Wait.... Did you know she was engaged before you started dating her or....did you find out after 6 months of dating her. If you knew she was engaged before starting to date her, then I agree with the following:

Actually a mutual friend of both of ours introduced and neglected to tell me. Pretty weird I know. I found out about a month in and let it continue.

Quoting AirframeAS (Reply 37):
You're probably lucky you didn't get your sorry ass kicked by the guy she was engaged to, Mikeology!!!

I actually met him once don't think that would have happened

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 38):
Well creeping on his a.net profile and seeing his FB account, it seems like he wouldn't get his ass kicked lol. But really man, I'm not really a fan of girl stealing but sometimes 2 people are meant to be even if one of them is in a relationship... but at least wait until relationship #1 has broken off before, well, screwing the other guy over! It's only right...

Thanks lol. Yeah as I stated above I always thought of myself as the "nice guy" shy and not good with women and never thought I would enter into such a awful circumstance. Not a highlight. But life throw's curveballs and I found myself in a situation that I let continue and my morals were put aside.
 
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Tue Jan 15, 2013 10:11 pm

Quoting mikeology (Reply 41):
Actually a mutual friend of both of ours introduced and neglected to tell me. Pretty weird I know. I found out about a month in and let it continue.

Ah well, I know, lame excuse, but sometimes when you are already into it, it's hard to shake off. I thought you knew from the get go.
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Tue Jan 15, 2013 10:16 pm

Quoting mikeology (Reply 41):
Actually a mutual friend of both of ours introduced and neglected to tell me.

Not much a friend, huh? That "Friend" should have told you. That wouldn't be your fault then.

But......

Quoting mikeology (Reply 41):
I found out about a month in and let it continue.

Now, this is your fault. Why in gods name would you let it continue? If it were me, the minute I find out about that, I would have severed ties with the girl immediately. This is why I have the rule that I have now.

Quoting mikeology (Reply 41):
I actually met him once don't think that would have happened

You never know. My point still stands.
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Tue Jan 15, 2013 10:26 pm

Quoting AirframeAS (Reply 43):
Not much a friend, huh? That "Friend" should have told you. That wouldn't be your fault then.

But......

Yeah I was pretty taken back when I found out. Needless to say we aren't friends anymore.

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 42):
but sometimes when you are already into it, it's hard to shake off
Quoting AirframeAS (Reply 43):
Now, this is your fault. Why in gods name would you let it continue? If it were me, the minute I find out about that, I would have severed ties with the girl immediately. This is why I have the rule that I have now.

As stated by DeltaMD90 I guess when you are in the thick of things you don't see otherwise. I'll spare the detail of the relationship but its just weird when you and her and your friends and our mutual friend would be out all the time. As if he didn't exist. Which he somewhat didn't because he traveled a lot.

Trust me I know its not a good thing. And on some level I feel bad it happened. But these situations happen every day around the world. We don't choose to enter into them. Trust me. But people make connections and its hard to let go.

Quoting AirframeAS (Reply 43):
You never know. My point still stands.

Pretty confident he wouldn't stand a chance but point taken.

I should point out that this was like 2 years ago I saw this woman. Not a current thing. And I was the one to end it if that maes anyone feel any better
 
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Tue Jan 15, 2013 10:53 pm

Quoting mikeology (Reply 44):

Fair enough. I'm glad that you ended it yourself and it did not hurt you nor your reputation in the long run. Good on you, sir!
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Wed Jan 16, 2013 12:14 am

Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):
PLUS she is currently taken.

Don't.

As stated many times before, she will do that to you as easily as she is doing it to the guy she is with now. Plus, love triangles rarely end well

Quoting AF1624 (Reply 26):

One does not escape the friendzone unfortunately.

You can but it takes more willpower than most men usually have left when they are thrown into the pit. And further deep you are into the zone, the harder it will be and its a one way street, since there's a high chance that the friendship will end.
 
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Wed Jan 16, 2013 2:36 am

Quoting AirframeAS (Reply 25):
Quoting andrej (Reply 30):
There is a golden rule that I follow: Bros before hoes!

That is a very tired and abused line that only goes so far to an extent.

Well, AirframeAS, we've had our many differences on here, but for once I completely and utterly agree with you. I absolutely despise "bros before hoes".

Quoting DeltaMD90 (Reply 38):
but at least wait until relationship #1 has broken off before, well, screwing the other guy over! It's only right...

  
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Wed Jan 16, 2013 6:47 am

Quoting KAUST (Thread starter):

You only live once but! as others have said proceed with caution. A hottie Marine, that's nice and if you were going to go for it I'd chance it with one of the few the proud the Marines. But her mate could be a psycho (obsessed) So, I say "probe" learn more about her current situation. Meaning ask questions about "your competition." If you still feel the same it's a go. Go with your intuition! Usually your intuition is the right path. Best of luck!   
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Wed Jan 16, 2013 7:14 pm

Quoting zippyjet (Reply 48):
Go with your intuition! Usually your intuition is the right path. Best of luck!

Um, men chasing women throughout history have often followed their "intuition" and caused lots of death and mayhem. Terrible advice zippy. Use rationality and common decency: Would you want this happening to you? Could she do the same to you (she's obviously willing to blow off a bf) ?

Like I said, I saw someone in a very similar situation and she ended up getting cheated on by the douchebag and he went with the girl she stole him from
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