In 2010, my best friend was pretty much a non-smoker. She would smoke one cigarette MAYBE once every 2 months or so, and even then she would not inahle. In 2011, after we became roommates, she started smoking one every few weeks, again, not inhaling, I guess just for the taste of it. Then, in May 2011, she physically came up, and asked me how to inhale and exhale like I did. Not really thinking, and after telling her that it would certainly get her hooked, she said "Ok?" so I showed her, and she did it fairly well, without choking. She inhaled, exhaled a little through her nose, then inhaled oxygen and exhaled through her mouth.
It doesn't take an aeronautical engineer to know that she is, today, a full-on, NEED to have it, smoker. Instead of one every 2-3 weeks, she goes through ½ a pack to a pack a day (½ depending on if she works all day and 1 full pack if she is off.)
Each time I see her light up a cigarette, I feel guilty, because I keep thinking if I had refused to show her, she wouldn't have started. (She smoked her first cigarette at 16 after taking one out of my pack and, not knowing how to, not inhaling.) 4 years later, she smokes more than I ever have in my entire life.
I guess my question is: Am I responsible for her starting smoking, or would she have figured it out sooner or later?
I just feel really guilty, and I've tried buying her gum, patches, and even E-Cigs, and each time, she tells me she "Loves her cigarettes." Before she started, she would wake up in the morning, ready to go, like me. Now it takes her a couple of hours because she has ti have 2-3 cigarettes and a cup of coffee before she is ready to go. I just don't know what di--to say, or do... If Anything. Advice please.
P.S. It caught me quite by surprise when she came out that one day, I thought she would go through her normal bit of lighting one, not inhaling it, and putting it out ½-way through, but then after I taught her what she asked, she went throught 1, then 2, then 3 more, before going back inside, and the next thing I knew, she was back outside having 2 more within 30 minutes. So I knew she was addicted instantly. In the words of Anakin Skywalker, "What have I DONE!!!?"
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