I am a paying passenger but have a couple...
I once sat next to a f/a in uniform on UA
who was dead heading from LAX
. I was in F on a three-class 747, yep they ran those to HNL
for awhile back in the early 90's. Anyway, he didn't seem to want to be there. I was in my mid-twenties at the time. I am very mature for my age and carry myself much older than I am as well as being dressed well. I decided to play my Gameboy and he seemed rather bothered that I was doing this by making it evident to me. When the flight attendant came around to take our meal order, he said to her rather snappily I might add, "I'll take what ever is left after he (points to me) orders." I almost said to him, "hey bud, I paid for my seat, I can do what I want, when I want"
So my rule is, be nice to your fellow seatmate, especially if you are in uniform making it more than evident you are non-rev.
The contrast to that story is when I sat next to a HA
flight attendant in uniform who had just worked the flight from LAX
and was dead heading back to LAX
. Although she wasn't working, it seemed like she couldn't do enough for me. She made sure that I was well taken care of throughout the flight, even getting me some water and nuts during the movie so I wouldn't have to go to the galley myself. I think she might have liked me though....never got her number and she never offered it either