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How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Fri Oct 19, 2007 10:57 pm

so i always wonder how to tell off a flight atttendant if they are doing something rude, or being inapropriate.
last week i flew on AA's flagship service from LAX-JFK in F class. this is a 3 class service, and although i flew with points, this is a 4500$ r/t ticket. how do i say this nicely....the flight crew were yapping the whole time in the forward galley. it was so absurd, that i thought it was a joke. i didnt know how to tell them to be quiet, and i should have. i kept yelling "shhhh" then if they looked my way, i pretended it wasnt me, but they didnt get the hint. how would other Anetters handle this.. needless to say, i suffered the whole way listening to them talk about everything from their dogs, to their grandkids(yes, old f/a's), to even hearing them discuss union issues.
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Fri Oct 19, 2007 11:01 pm

Make your point to the airline by flying another airline. If enough people do so, the airline will change. Its how a free market economy works. If you don't want to fly another airline, then obviously... even though the FAs are doing this... American is offering you a better product/price than the competition. In that case, if you want better, you're going to have to pay more.
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Fri Oct 19, 2007 11:05 pm

Quoting BoeingForEver (Thread starter):
how do i say this nicely

Very simple. Go up to the flight attendant(s), say something like "excuse me" or "pardon me", "I am sitting in __ and I can hear your entire conversation, would you mind being a little quieter" or "your conversation that is a bit loud is also offensive.". If that doesn't work, go to the purser or lead flight attendant.

As for this:

Quoting BoeingForEver (Thread starter):
i kept yelling "shhhh" then if they looked my way, i pretended it wasnt me,

Don't use passive/aggressive behavior, regardless of how much you paid for your ticket. Be straight forward with any complaints you may have.

I take constructive feedback rather well, especially if it brought directly to my attention.

Honesty is always the best policy.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Fri Oct 19, 2007 11:08 pm

Quoting BoeingForEver (Thread starter):
the flight crew were yapping the whole time in the forward galley. it was so absurd, that i thought it was a joke



Quoting EWRCabincrew (Reply 2):
"I am sitting in __ and I can hear your entire conversation, would you mind being a little quieter" or "your conversation that is a bit loud is also offensive.". If that doesn't work, go to the purser or lead flight attendant.

I was about to write the same. Rude behavior will get you nowhere but just like if you are at work just tell the people in a nice way. I have done that too and the crew apologized.

As for me I always get the crew with a smile.  Smile
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Fri Oct 19, 2007 11:10 pm

Quoting EWRCabincrew (Reply 2):
Very simple. Go up to the flight attendant(s), say something like "excuse me" or "pardon me", "I am sitting in __ and I can hear your entire conversation, would you mind being a little quieter" or "your conversation that is a bit loud is also offensive.". If that doesn't work, go to the purser or lead flight attendant.

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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Fri Oct 19, 2007 11:12 pm

Simple. Talk to them. Tell them you are trying to work/sleep/meditate, etc. and ask them to keep their voices down. They will respect that. Most, on longhauls, have downtime between meal/beverage service when passengers are sleeping. The FAs then congregate with their coworkers to hangout....often in first, but also in the rear. I flew ICN-SFO in UA First...a nice first class pod....once and asked the FAs to keep their voices down. They profusely apologized and I had no problem.

On the other hand, if they ignore your request.,then you complain like hell to the purser and to any management that will listen when you land.

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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Fri Oct 19, 2007 11:12 pm

Quoting OHLHD (Reply 3):
I have done that too and the crew apologized.

100% of the time. Sometimes we become unaware of how loud we are (the noise of the aircraft, other people). By all means let us know. We are not untouchable, unapproachable or above it all. We are simply human. Fallible like you.

Common sense works everytime.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Fri Oct 19, 2007 11:14 pm

you see that the canadian and the dutch nationals answered me on how to address them nicely. obviously, they havent flown an american legacy carrier recently. the older FA's w seniority do anything but work on the flights
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Fri Oct 19, 2007 11:16 pm

Quoting BoeingForEver (Reply 7):
obviously, they havent flown an american legacy carrier recently.

For the record, I work for CO. 21 years. ISM (purser). EWR based at that. It has nothing to do with the carrier, but everything to do with common decency, common sense and being polite (from both sides).

[Edited 2007-10-19 16:20:22]
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Fri Oct 19, 2007 11:24 pm

Quoting BoeingForEver (Reply 7):
the older FA's w seniority do anything but work on the flights

That is a gross generalization and similar to using the N word, C word or other negative derogatory nouns. The majority of older FAs are wonderful, professional, safety conscious, and excellent. You are stereotyping which is offensive. Thank you to the many many experienced flight attendants who make my trips special.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Fri Oct 19, 2007 11:31 pm

Quoting BoeingForEver (Thread starter):
i kept yelling "shhhh" then if they looked my way, i pretended it wasnt me, but they didnt get the hint. how would other Anetters handle this..

Funny, per your profile, you are 36-45, and a VP (I assume that means that you are the vice president of something) and dont know how to properly tell someone that their behavior is disturbing you? Seems a bit odd to me. And, you were going SSHH and then pretending it wasn't you......that sounds like something a 5 year old would do.

Quoting EWRCabincrew (Reply 6):
100% of the time. Sometimes we become unaware of how loud we are (the noise of the aircraft, other people). By all means let us know. We are not untouchable, unapproachable or above it all. We are simply human. Fallible like you.

Very valid point.

Quoting BoeingForEver (Reply 7):
you see that the canadian and the dutch nationals answered me on how to address them nicely. obviously, they havent flown an american legacy carrier recently. the older FA's w seniority do anything but work on the flights

Should their be an emergency or an accident, its those older FA's w/seniority that will save your life. Come to Holland, maybe we can teach YOU some manners. I cross the Atlantic with US legacy carriers more than 20 times per year, and fly within the US frequently, and most (not all) F/A work very very hard indeed.

Now, SSSSSSSSSSHHHHHHHHHHH........
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Fri Oct 19, 2007 11:59 pm

Quoting Dutchjet (Reply 10):

Should their be an emergency or an accident, its those older FA's w/seniority that will save your life. Come to Holland, maybe we can teach YOU some manners. I cross the Atlantic with US legacy carriers more than 20 times per year, and fly within the US frequently, and most (not all) F/A work very very hard indeed.

crossing the atlantic is much different flying experience that flying domestic on legacy carriers..just look at the cabin difference between AAs international 767s and their domestic 767s
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 12:13 am

Quoting BoeingForEver (Reply 11):
just look at the cabin difference between AAs international 767s and their domestic 767s

Cabin differences should not be the litmus test on how to approach a situation. Crew should act accordingly on a domestic sector the way they act on an international one and vice versa. In other words, the one and the same. The only differences being length of time in the air and food service provided.

I can only speak for myself, but the customer service you get from me is the same from a 24 minute flight or a 17 hour flight and regardless of how much you paid for your ticket. That is what is expected of me by the customer. That is what you get 100% of the time.

Maybe I should set my standards high of the customer.

Back to topic, use honesty. Approach any situation with politeness. A smile never hurts.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 12:32 am

I think the best way to handle this situation is, handle it like you would want to be treated if it was you being asked to keep your voice down. In other words you can catch more bees with sugar than you can with vinegar.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 12:48 am

Quoting Flyf15 (Reply 1):
Make your point to the airline by flying another airline. If enough people do so, the airline will change.

i'm sorry, i don't see any correlation between him flying another airline and the F/A's talking. i highly doubt that management will think losing business (which they probably won't, as most his points are with AA and he won't want to start over) has anything to do with "galley gossip".

Quoting Bicoastal (Reply 5):
Simple. Talk to them. Tell them you are trying to work/sleep/meditate, etc. and ask them to keep their voices down. They will respect that. Most, on longhauls, have downtime between meal/beverage service when passengers are sleeping.

i completely, 100% agree with this. sometimes with the stresses of the job, and whatnot, we need to vent to each other and tend not to realize how loud we are because we are competing with engine noise. just tell us (politely) you don't wish to hear our conversation, and we will apologize and be more careful. and hey, you might even get a free drink from us just to appease you and make sure you don't have any negative feelings towards us or the airline.
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 3:05 am

oh ...you were a first class pax...Yes, you should tell cabin crews to keep quiet and then they will respect you because you paid lots of money for them and the cabin crews' job is to respect pax, make pax feel more comfortable as if you were at home and be friendly with the first class pax. However, I am not sure whether they were very friendly with you or not. I have seen lots of cabin crews were friendly and so helpful and made me feel comfortable. If i could hear the noise from the gallery, I will speak to the my friendly cabin crew (who served me, talked to me many times and looked after me a lot - I mean a person you know), She will go to the galley to tell their colleagues to keep quiet. Then you would be fine...and sleep peacefully.

In the CX aircraft, there's a placment which is said that "Please do not talk so loudly otherwise you will disturb our pax" inside the galley.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 3:14 am

Quoting FlyboyOz (Reply 15):
oh ...you were a first class pax...

First class or coach. $4500 dollars or a free reward ticket. Doesn't matter where you sit. Be proactive and be polite.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 3:23 am

Quoting BoeingForEver (Reply 7):
you see that the canadian and the dutch nationals answered me on how to address them nicely. obviously, they havent flown an american legacy carrier recently. the older FA's w seniority do anything but work on the flights

I agree that's an awkward situation, but if you're polite and disarming about it, I can't imagine most people having a problem with it. And even if they do, what are they going to do to you?

Quoting Bicoastal (Reply 9):

That is a gross generalization and similar to using the N word, C word or other negative derogatory nouns. The majority of older FAs are wonderful, professional, safety conscious, and excellent. You are stereotyping which is offensive. Thank you to the many many experienced flight attendants who make my trips special.

Its nothing like a racial slur at all.
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 10:57 am

If they're really obnoxious, tell them. But, try to put yourself in their shoes. The nicest thing to do would probably be to ask them to take their conversation to the rear galley. If it's not that bad, ignore it. I once had an F/A who kept thinking that these two women sitting next to me were my girlfriends. I just ignored him, and he stopped.
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 11:02 am

we have a lovely saying here in the north 'shut your cake hole' haha
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 2:22 pm

I am guessing they were not aware they were being loud. The forward galley of an aircraft can be quite noisy due to wind noise with the curvature of the fuselage, as well as leaky door seals on older aircraft. A very simple "excuse me, but maybe you don't know everyone can hear your conversation" would not only work, but would probably be appreciated.

I remember years ago flying on a Midwest Express DC-9 from YYZ to MKE. After meal service, one of the flight attendants was telling the other about a tryst she had had with the First Officer on a previous layover. Being in the noisy galley of the old DC-9-10, they had to yell to hear each other. Back in the quiet cabin, the front half of the aircraft were quiet entertained!!!
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 2:26 pm

Hi all

First of all you must take into consideration that what to you is the inside of an airplane. To those FA's it's their work place. How would you like it if someone came into your office and told you to shut up? As workers they have a right to some rest, to talk to their fellow work mates as people do in any work place. You see FA' s also have to work in the galleys, they have food to prepare and other chores to do while they do that they can talk with each other as other people do while working. They're not slaves, they don't have to bow to anyone. What they have to do is serve and do their job the best they can. Some people confuse service with being Servile.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 3:04 pm

If you ask nicely, in a non-confrontational way with a smile and come from your needs, we will do just about anything for you, as long as you are not asking us to bend the rules (even then, sometimes we will if what you want is not unreasonable and we like you).

It can be irritating when you hear us talking about our wierd dating habits, contract issues, bunions, hystorectomies and such. Just politely explain, "By the way -- did you know that I can hear EVERYTHING you are saying ?". That ought to shut us up! I wouldn't want everyone in FC knowing about my personal issues, so if a passenger told me that they were finding all of that out unbeknownst to me, I would be most appreciative.

Galleys are loud and sometimes we have trouble hearing well in them.
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 3:20 pm

Quoting BoeingForEver (Thread starter):
i kept yelling "shhhh" then if they looked my way, i pretended it wasnt me,

That's absolutely hilarious. However, I have to say I'm not surprised it didn't work. Is that really the best plan you could come up with?  Smile

Quoting EWRCabincrew (Reply 2):
Don't use passive/aggressive behavior,

Yeah right, ok Sigmund - he was only yelling "shhh".
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 3:48 pm

Quoting RussianJet (Reply 23):
Yeah right, ok Sigmund - he was only yelling "shhh".

Ok, you know what I mean.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 4:22 pm

I had the same problem a few years ago on AA returning from LA to JFK on the red eye. I was sitting in the emergency exit row which and the economy cabin galley is adjacent to the emergency exit seats.

During the night a few of the FA’s had congregated in this galley and to say the least were talking very loud. Since I was in the aisle seat on the 2 side right next to the closed curtain, I just leaned over and pulled the curtain back and told them in no uncertain terms that I was trying to sleep and their noise was keeping me awake and would they please keep the noise down. I admit they were very polite, they apologized and some of them went to another galley and the others were very quiet for the rest of the trip.
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 4:31 pm

No, that's not all it takes.

Especially if it's a couple of gay F/As and one or more is OTR and they want everyone to know about it.

That's gets to be tedious real fast but the expect us to tolerate if for the entire flight.

On my last Alaska trip that spilled over into all of the P/A announcements and briefings. At some point this becomes

totally unacceptable. I'm waiting for it to become a safety issue over a PC issue at some point.
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 4:41 pm

Quoting BoeingForEver (Thread starter):
i kept yelling "shhhh" then if they looked my way

How rude!!!! This is exactly something I would expect on a flight to/from the USA where some peoples manners are severly lacking!!! Just come out and say it. We would appreciate the feedback. Remember, polite interaction generally receives the same in return and no doubt an apology will ensue! It is also far easier then just sitting there stewing over the situation!
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 4:43 pm

Quoting Super98 (Reply 26):
OTR

Men menstruate?

Quoting Super98 (Reply 26):
No, that's not all it takes.

Yes, that is all it takes.

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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 4:45 pm

I was expecting a funny punchline from the thread title...
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 5:01 pm

Quoting Tonystan (Reply 27):
This is exactly something I would expect on a flight to/from the USA where some peoples manners are severly lacking

He is rude, what about you........all Americans are lacking in manners? Americans are frequently in the minority on many transatlantic flights and the lack of manners in 2007 is something that is hardly unique to Americans.

Quoting EWRCabincrew (Reply 28):
Don't let personal prejudices override common sense.

Stop being so logical.
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 5:14 pm

To the OP:
If a "shhh" didn't do the trick, I would've demanded to speak to the Chief Purser. If this didn't work, I would get their name and then report it to customer service. This is competely unacceptable, esp. when flying F.

Quoting Tonystan (Reply 27):
How rude!!!! This is exactly something I would expect on a flight to/from the USA where some peoples manners are severly lacking!!! Just come out and say it. We would appreciate the feedback. Remember, polite interaction generally receives the same in return and no doubt an apology will ensue! It is also far easier then just sitting there stewing over the situation!

Rude? Rude when the lazy, old F/A's think they're the owners of the plane and make the passengers feel like they're doing them a favor. We are the ones paying your salary. Better start acting like that!

Would never happen on an Asian airline. And if it would, believe, they would all be bending over backwards to make up for having disturbing you, even in Economy.

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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 5:26 pm

Quoting EWRCabincrew (Reply 24):
Ok, you know what I mean.

Yeah, I know what you mean - you hear something you don't like or have anyone object in any way and immediately cry "passive agressive". It's a pathetic, meaningless term banded around by people who can't address things properly, one that I'm sick to death of hearing. I hear far worse things than 'ssshh' most days from pax at work.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 6:49 pm

Quoting Dutchjet (Reply 30):
Quoting Tonystan (Reply 27):
This is exactly something I would expect on a flight to/from the USA where some peoples manners are severly lacking

He is rude, what about you........all Americans are lacking in manners? Americans are frequently in the minority on many transatlantic flights and the lack of manners in 2007 is something that is hardly unique to Americans.

I was brought up with impeccable manners thank you!!!!! And you will notice if you reread my original post that I said "some peoples" manners are severly lacking on US routes! However I must admit I find it far more on the Atlantic with Americans than I do on any of the other routes my airline flies which is pretty much the rest of the world! Just an observation which I am sure is shared by many other non US crew members!

Do we have to be so PC on here? I hope not!!!!
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 7:03 pm

Quoting Tonystan (Reply 33):
I was brought up with impeccable manners thank you!!!!!

Oh, good for you, aren't you special.

Quoting Tonystan (Reply 33):
And you will notice if you reread my original post that I said "some peoples" manners are severly lacking on US routes!

What an astute observation.....have you ever travelled on a European holiday flight headed to the Canaries or Majorca? The pax are not exactly elegant on those flights either.

Quoting Tonystan (Reply 33):
However I must admit I find it far more on the Atlantic with Americans than I do on any of the other routes my airline flies which is pretty much the rest of the world! Just an observation which I am sure is shared by many other non US crew members

'

Generalizations are problematic.......I have a real problem with your generalization that all Americans (or some peoples, to use your term) are rude. Its inappropriate and incorrect; we wouldn't want to discuss (usually incorrect) generalizations concerning the Irish, would we?

And, I must ask, which Irish carrier flies to the US and pretty much the rest of the world? Ryanair does not fly to the US and AerLingus doesnt fly to Asia, South America, India or Africa? Please fill us in.
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 7:41 pm

Quoting Tonystan (Reply 33):
However I must admit I find it far more on the Atlantic with Americans than I do on any of the other routes my airline flies which is pretty much the rest of the world! Just an observation which I am sure is shared by many other non US crew members!

Isn't this truly a cultural issue? Acceptable etiquette by one group maybe offensive to another; why is it so difficult for people to educate themselves on the culture of a given country or state? I find that there are rude, obnoxious and basically unrefined people everywhere in the world and I also find kind, polite and refined people seated right next to them (and they are usually from the same family).

Quoting Super98 (Reply 26):
Especially if it's a couple of gay F/As and one or more is OTR and they want everyone to know about it.

That's gets to be tedious real fast but the expect us to tolerate if for the entire flight.

On my last Alaska trip that spilled over into all of the P/A announcements and briefings. At some point this becomes

totally unacceptable. I'm waiting for it to become a safety issue over a PC issue at some point.

I'm still trying to figure out your "point". How are "gay" people more prone to being "OTR" than anyone else in society? Just because they have relations with someone of the same gender?
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 8:06 pm

I recently flew JFK-LGW in the Delta Airlines BusinessElite cabin. The purser (lead attendant) was a lovely lady but she had the most childish, annoying and loud giggle that I have ever heard. She seemed to end every conversation with this giggle and I was tired of it before the forward door was closed for departure. Because she was such a nice person and because this was obviously an ingrained trait I did not say anything. Thankfully, Delta gives its BE passengers sound dampening headsets, which saved me from the agony of "the giggle from hell".
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 8:25 pm

sorry, but:

Quoting BoeingForEver (Thread starter):
even hearing them discuss union issues

why "even"? are union issues something you're less supposed to talk about than about other issues?

Quoting Coal (Reply 31):
We are the ones paying your salary. Better start acting like that!

Ah OK, didn't know that.  duck 
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 8:45 pm

Quoting Coal (Reply 31):

Rude? Rude when the lazy, old F/A's think they're the owners of the plane and make the passengers feel like they're doing them a favor. We are the ones paying your salary. Better start acting like that!

There are rude and lazy people everywhere, ... judging you by your comments ... you are likely one of them!
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 8:49 pm

I fly F a lot and don't understand how you could hear a conversation in the galley. With the jet and wind noise I can see the FA's talking but don't hear them. I have more of a problem with the talking of the other passengers around me then the FA's in the galley. None of this ever bothers me as I always have my NC headsets. If you are disturbed by noise and conversations around you invest in a good set of NC headsets.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 9:11 pm

Flying regional in a 50 pax cabin, usually it's just me. Sometimes I'll have a deadheading F/A or I'll be deadheading and usually help each other out. As far as I know we were never loud and if so, I would certainly hope a passenger would let us know.

How 'bout this for a twist... One F/A and pilots on the interphone with a hot mic. We were discussing this very attractive female passenger in seat 15A. All of a sudden people are laughing, and this passenger was sort of ducking down in her seat. Then I realized what was going on. Whoops. Later in the flight I get to her seat during the service and she say's"So, I hear you're married." Sorry 'bout that ma'am.

Seriously, most of the F/A's on here pretty much agree. If we are too loud or doing something to your dislike. Just let us know. Not all of us bite. The great thing about face to face criticism, we'll work to improve on our skills.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 9:39 pm

Quoting RussianJet (Reply 32):
you hear something you don't like or have anyone object in any way and immediately cry "passive agressive".

Hardly.

Quoting RussianJet (Reply 32):
It's a pathetic

What is pathetic is people who resort to not standing up for themselves and when they try, they resort to a

Quoting RussianJet (Reply 32):
meaningless term banded around by people who can't address things properly, one that I'm sick to death of hearing.

Like yelling shhhhhhhh.  Yeah sure

Quoting RussianJet (Reply 32):
I hear far worse things than 'ssshh' most days from pax at work.

Things like that go in one ear and out the other.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 9:43 pm

Quoting EWRCabincrew (Reply 41):
Like yelling shhhhhhhh.

Hmm, do people say that to you a lot?  Smile
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 9:47 pm

Quoting RussianJet (Reply 42):
Hmm, do people say that to you a lot?

Never. I know enough to be appropriate in my surroundings and be considerate of others. Basic common sense and basic customer service.

Should someone ever do, I would also know enough to recognise my error and apologise.  Smile
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 9:53 pm

Quoting EWRCabincrew (Reply 43):
Should someone ever do, I would also know enough to recognise my error and apologise. Smile

Ha ha, good answer - fair enough pal.  Wink

My favourite part of the originating post is the fact that he pretented it wasn't him. That truly conjures up some extremely silly images of the scene in my mind. The mind boggles as to why you'd bother saying it if you didn't want them know it was you they were bothering.  Smile
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 10:26 pm

Quoting BoeingForEver (Thread starter):
i always wonder how to tell off a flight atttendant if they are doing something rude

If you have truly pondered this question for any length of time, you have too much time on your hands.

Quoting BoeingForEver (Thread starter):
i kept yelling "shhhh" then if they looked my way, i pretended it wasnt me,

Be a man, get up and tell them their chatty behavior is disturbing you. "Shhhhhing" someone and looking the other way is passive aggressive, childish and absurd. Be aman. Act like one.
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 10:43 pm

You kidding me!!!!

confront a flight attendent on an american carrier!!
and tell them they are bothering you -

They will get you arrested!!

please - im afraid to ask for water on a flight sometimes.. even in first class..

some FA's unfortunatly are on a major power trip and would love to call the police on someone any chance they get
If seen this more then once..

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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 10:45 pm

Quoting Flyprivate (Reply 46):
The customer is Never right anymore...

I guess thats why you....Flyprivate.
 
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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 10:51 pm

Quoting Flyprivate (Reply 46):
some FA's unfortunatly are on a major power trip and would love to call the police on someone any chance they get

an equally absurd observation. If someone present themsevles in a dangerous, threatening or hostile manner, then someone might call the police. You have to present yourself in a way that the crew feels the safety of the flight is in question.

Being reasonable, rational and professional is not enough to get anyone arrest.

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RE: How Do You Tell A F/A To Be Quiet!

Sat Oct 20, 2007 10:58 pm

Quoting Jetdeltamsy (Reply 48):
an equally absurd observation. If someone present themsevles in a dangerous, threatening or hostile manner, then someone might call the police. You have to present yourself in a way that the crew feels the safety of the flight is in question.

you obviously don't fly enough! many times i have seen flight attendants threaten to have passengers arrested for the most non-threatening actions.

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