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klm672
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How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 4:36 am

Ok short and simple. I like this girl but she does not know my name or anything, I have no classes with her but just lunch. I like her alot but I don't really know how to approach this girl, what to talk about etc...
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 4:40 am

KLM672.....

Weren't you talking to a chubby girl on the net a few months back???

Regards,
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klm672
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 4:52 am

Oh yeah way back when.... thats been over for about 3 or so months. It stopped short of summer.
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 4:52 am

its not easy, good luck dude.

don't be too direct or else she'll think your a weirdo.

so your going to have to use some type of association to get to her. do her friends know her, can they introduce you casually one day. can you figure out some way you can discreetly or inadvertantly have the teacher pair you together some how. do you see something she has or does that means something important to you that you can talk to her about.

theres more, but people write books on this crap and im not prepared to do that right now. good luck andre.

tnnh
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 4:56 am

do her friends know her, can they introduce you casually one day.- I don't really like her friends, well the people she sits at lunch with

can you figure out some way you can discreetly or inadvertantly have the teacher pair you together some how.- No classes with her

do you see something she has or does that means something important to you that you can talk to her about. No not really but I'll keep my eye out.

andre.

 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 5:21 am

simple. You approach her and say "I like you. I dont know how to talk to you, can you help me"? Seriously in your case with no class together, no friends to get to introduce you, nor see anything similar you two share, your in a world of sh*t when it comes to getting anywhere with this girl. Your in between a rock and a hard place for damn sure. In high school, I would almost think it would be impossible for you to go up and start talking to her at lunch without a few eyebrows lifting by her and her friends. Thats just how H.S. girls work. I Think the only real way of starting a conversation is if you have her away from friends. Standing in line for food is the only scenario I can think of. Any one else think of something different?
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 5:54 am

What do I talk to her about?
Andre
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 6:18 am

When she's in a position to have a conversation with you (ie: in line or something, not when she's surrounded by her giggly girl friends) Just say "Hey, how's it goin?" And go from there. People for the most part love to meet other people, it can't hurt. If it doesn't work, you didn't have a snowball's chance in hell with her anyways.
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 6:49 am

The key is to

A: Have her freinds that you know force an encounter. This is bad if her freinds tell her what the deal is.

B: Sit at her table and just start talking to her. This line or a variation thereof works great:

"Is that the book for Professor XXXXX's class? Yeah, I've heard he's a real pain."


You have to be confident and natural. All the women I've met in my life I've met when I wasn't looking (i.e. trying)

The key to a good conversation is a common core of experiance. Once contact has been made it is up to you to run with it...
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 7:49 am

"hi, what's up?"

J Lu speaks the truth
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 7:49 am

Make sure to NOT be yourself. Don't tell her you're an aviation geek. Also, Whatever you do, don't wear clothing with dragons on them to talk to her. If you play role playing games, or video games, don't talk about that either. Girls like to be fed B.S. from a spoon. On a more serious note, make eye contact when talking. Make sure you listen to what she's saying. Also, ask questions for more details about what she's talking about. Girls love that.
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 8:38 am

1. like Tbone said, for the love of pete DO NOT talk about aviation at all!! dont be a dork.

2. to see if she likes you, make a joke when she is close to you. if she laughs, it is an open gate to start talking to her. If I want to talk to a girl, I make her laugh (I am VERY good at that) and we can start talking away. Just going up and talking to her is bad. I let them come up and start talking to me.

3. make jokes!! I have found the best way to have a girl like you is joke around. Tease her a bit also. I dont know why, but it works. Dont ask why, but it works.

4. Timeing. timeing is everything. just be pacient (spelling)
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 9:00 am

This is all very intersting as I am in a very similar situation right now, keep it coming yo!
The meaning of life is curiosity; we were put on this planet to explore opportunities.
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 9:02 am

People for the most part love to meet other people,

Not in grade school. The psychology of meeting people in middle or high school is quite different than in college and the "real world".

tnnh
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 9:10 am

Guys wake up... Insane Your not gonna get anywhere if your not yourself with girls. If the girl thinks avaition makes you a geek so be it. She aint gonna work out. I am not saying go out and flaunt how you nerd it up on an Aviation forum every night. Yet you can be yourself with avaiton to a suttle degree. The girls I have been envolved with and am at the moment all think its awesome I have an interest in Aviation. I have had times where they want to look through all my photo albums with me. Having a pilots license and working on instrument seems to evoke ALOT of conversation with girls. You can use your interest in aviation to your benefit as I do... or not. If the girl still thinks your a dork and shows no interest, then the door is right there! Better to not have a girl then a girl you cant be yourself around. And thats for the truth!
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 9:20 am

KiaTak,

If you just want to slang wood, that wotn work, just being yourself. Also, get her to like you then TALK ABOUT AVIATION. iTS ALL ABOUT 1ST IMPRESSIONS GENTS. thats all its about.
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 11:17 am

If you have no friend that knows her, then there must be a friend of a friend of a friend (yeah lol) ... don't talk Aviation to H.S. girls unless you're nuts, lol. I never talk about that unless someone asks. If your eyes happen to cross while in school (or wherever else) smile to her or something. This is complicated, I have been in a situation like this and it actually took 2 years before I actually talked to her. I got to know people around her and other stuff. This is hard work, man, but don't give up, things you never expect to happen might!

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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 11:55 am

Go up to her and say "Wassup baby, wanna make some gravy?" Work EVERY time honestly how else do you think that I have 14 children... :P :P
Really go to www.pphq.net for dating advice not an aviation forum, because like most of us here this is the advice: If she dont come on to you, forget about her and go plane spotting!
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 12:05 pm

Just be like:

"Hey! Nice shoes, wanna f*ck?"

TB
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 12:31 pm

Girls have kooties. Stay away from them.
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 12:43 pm

Listen to KaiTakFan

He has won my respect on matters of labido....
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 9:51 pm

From a woman's point of view, you have to do more than 'make eyes' at her. She probably won't get the hint, and you'll be no different than other guys who might be doing the same thing. You have to approach her, on her own preferably - and start talking ..compliment her, talk about a neutral topic, say school related - something she can respond to. Ask a question or two. Make some eye contact, smile when you leave. She may not act interested at the time, but whatever you do, follow it up with something similar a couple of days later when you see her, and/or the following week. She will remember what you have said, and if she is interested she may start a conversation the time after that. You have to make yourself known to her, and in time, you'll know whether she is interested or not. She will tell her friends too. That's all the advice I can think of right now. Hope this helps.  Big thumbs up

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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Thu Sep 19, 2002 11:07 pm

You may not want to talk about porn stars though. I met this one chick, and started talking about Nikki Tyler, and for some reason she walked away.  Big grin
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Fri Sep 20, 2002 7:25 am

Let me get in on this with a quick question:

Let's say that 'she' was walking to class and 'you' end up walking besides each other on a common path with a few feet of separation, what is appropriate to say? This on the chance 'she' is walking alone.
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Fri Sep 20, 2002 7:53 am

Just go up to her and say "Who's Your Daddy"

j/k I don't know what to do im sorta in a situation like this myself.
Where will you spend eternity? He,s more real then you think!!!!!
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Fri Sep 20, 2002 8:13 am

Lephron, I can help you if you can give me more info. I just pulled the same stunt your thinking 4 weeks ago and I am on the verge of getting really into it with this amazing girl. So first off, are you two in any classes together? second have you ever talked to her before? Next, you both are obviously at ERAU for a reason. So if thats the case why not ask her if she has flown today or if she is flying today or what not. Maybe be like "hey can I ask you a question regarding some sort of topic you may have a problem with" ok before i get going just let me know what your situation is and go from there.
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Fri Sep 20, 2002 8:21 am

"Hey! Nice shoes, wanna f*ck?"

I'd be dead in 5 seconds if said that to a girl I like.
"Ladies and Gentlemen it's happy hour. You will get two approaches for the price of one."
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Fri Sep 20, 2002 8:46 am

Quit being a loser and just go up and talk to her. If you can't do that then don't bother trying any other way...Because you'll look like a fool if she has never even said a word to you.

Hmm..

HI, how are you. My name is (fill in your name here). I really think you're gorgeous and was wondering if I could get to know you better by going out to dinner or putt putt or something.

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Brooklyn, Queens, Manhattan, Staten, Uptown, what now? Lets make it happen.
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Fri Sep 20, 2002 9:03 am

KaiTakFan, well it's kind weird, it's kind of silly, and it feels kind of stupid, but here it goes:

I met her a while ago at the first weekend’s school sponsored party. She was playing chess with other students from their hall (in which I felt out of place). We were never properly introduced, I got her name through other people who introduced themselves; the right moment was not there, or at least that was my excuse. That was about 3 weeks ago.

Suddenly this Monday I had the opportunity to say something, but I hesitated to take the chance fearing it would look too weird (the situation I mentioned above in previous post). Plus I was thought that her body language would have made the awkwardness worse. But then I saw her again on Wednesday (she looked in my direction as I was walking to class, I cannot tell if she was just glancing or recognized me), and again this morning @ breakfast. She's usually never alone, there is at least someone with her, except that one time when I realized see was walking next to me!

Look, she is very attractive, but I don't know her. It is completely irresponsible for me to say that I might like her. I have not thought about her in a long time and it seems like more than a coincidence that I am suddenly seeing her around. We are both majoring in Aerospace Engineering; I also found that through her introducing herself to others back at that party. I am guessing that since I saw her in a class that my teacher says he teaches, she may also be a junior. But I am a semester off the normal track; I'll probably never have her in a class.

Do not ask me what I want cuz I don't know, I refuse to think about her in other ways simply because I don’t want to put myself in a situation that renders more pain than I have ever had; friends have nearly pushed me to suicide; I cannot imagine what mere dating would do… Talking to someone like that and sharing experiences and whatnot would be great -- but how do I get that point across without looking bad?


[I have to be careful though, cuz if someone she knows is on this site and tells her about "this guy online," chances are once I make a move to say hi, she'll label me as a stalker or something -- which I am not. I learned my lesson from someone else's mistake (check this out https://www.airliners.net/discussions/non_aviation/read.main/275499/6/)]

I am not obcessed with her; maybe a hour per week, which I heard is normal.
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Fri Sep 20, 2002 10:03 am

Lehpron, In my mind its a good thing you already have been in and around her during the first week. Next time you have a chance to talk to her, a simple way to make conversation is just by asking if you were the girl from that one night out. Saying how she looked familiar. I really think that is your best bet if you want to make it easy on yourself without looking like you have been monitoring her.

Ah-ha!! Ya know, you could just do the classic "hey do you know what time it is?? 10:30 ok great, wait have I met you before, you look familiar to me..." and then its off from there. That simple little question can lead to alot of conversation in the future I have found. That might just be the easiest way to ever approach a girl that you find is nearly impossible to talk to. Plus if that really doenst work and she does not seem to be really interested at least you know and wont have to torment yourself everyday with the questions that seem to always flood ones mind who is in doubt with a certain girl. Any other advice you may need, dont hesitate to ask.

Cheers!
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Fri Sep 20, 2002 10:56 am

I guess it depends on what you are looking for with this girl.

If all you are is physically attracted to her, or all you want is a nice looking girl to hang around with, you could probably use a bold pick up line, like the ones some guys have mentioned here. Think about it. . .it could work, and if it doesn't, there are other pretty fish in the sea. Don't over do it though, it could be bad for your reputation. Back in high school I used a line that might seem stupid but it actually worked sometimes; it just said hi or something and depending on the reaction I would say something like "hey, I'm not hitting on you, I just want to have a conversation". . .I know, stupid but it worked many times!! They are not expecting you to say this, at least on my days.

However, if aside from being attracted to her, you are really trying to get to know her and you are looking for a mature thing, my advice is just be yourself, and DON'T TRY TOO HARD. Really man, all the good relationships in my life which I still treasure started by a casual meeting, being friends with the girl, and just letting things happen. Actually, I met my soon to be wife through her best friend, who I was interested in. It turns out we became good friends and I one fine day I realized that I wanted to be with her (or more precisely, she decided!), we started dating and around a year after that I popped the question! I'm not saying you go this far, but it is just an example of how the best way to find a person and love such person is to be yourself. And don't mind about being an aviation geek. My first conversation with my fiancee involved aviation (i had just arrived from the airport), and I'm not kidding! She didn't understand a thing, but she liked how passionate I was about it and that is why we kept talking. And believe me, my girl is not what you would call a geeky type! You never know man. . .

 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Fri Sep 20, 2002 11:34 am

Wow, I guess just going up and asking what her name is and introducing yourself doesn't work anymore. If you don't have self confidence....Well just don't ask anyone out till you do.

-174

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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Sat Sep 21, 2002 4:10 am

Damn my clock! The night before I set it ahead ten minutes so I would not be late for that morning's class, well I totally forgot about it until I got to class this morning. The thing is that both her 'class' and mine are near the cafeteria and of the times I saw her she arrives late, close to the hour. Well I missed her today. Honestly, how do I know if this is just how it is when I am late for class (usually am) or just this week?  Sad

Still it was not an entire waste, I very briefly talked to another girl in my class, yet I had no intention of speaking to her, just the one on my mind, which I missed! Yes, I'm pissed, why should I be, it doesn't really matter does it, she'll be around...
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Sat Sep 21, 2002 4:14 am

Try a clever opening line, like "Don't move or I'll kill you"
Works every time.

I have no idea...I was always a somewhat shy teenager..but I grew out of that very quickly.

Anyway...food and music are always good topics.
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Sat Sep 21, 2002 4:14 am

Hi there KLM672, it's refreshing to see a girl help topic again. Perhaps I'll disappoint you but the best thing to do in this case is just forget about her. It won't work, and besides, I can tell u from my experience that going for a girl just by looks isn't a good thing either. I'm sure there's a girl you know well who's nice and pretty, well expand your friendship with her and it could work out to a really great relationship.
I can tell you from my own experience that love at first sight doesn't work!
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Sat Sep 21, 2002 4:39 am

Whatever you do, though, don't force it. Just be yourself around her. If she doesn't like you for who you are then it aint worth it anyway. Good luck n'at.
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Sat Sep 21, 2002 5:04 am

Aren't you the guy who couple of weeks ago posted here something 'should I drive' my girlfriend to movie theater or should I ask my mother to take us there???
Here is original topic
https://www.airliners.net/discussions/non_aviation/read.main/277869/6/
So if you telling us truth in the first post why do you ask for advice how to talk to a girl???? You obviously had girlfriend before.
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Sun Sep 22, 2002 1:50 am

Just dont, anyone who would post that question is going to crash and burn . Hey just trying to save you the pain.
 
klm672
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Sun Sep 22, 2002 4:02 am

lindy, yes that was me, but that girl always cancelled on the movie thing when we would reschedual and now we never see each other during the day....

Andre
 
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RE: How To Talk To A Girl I Like

Mon Sep 23, 2002 2:31 am

Lindy, I had a class with that girl, so I got to know her, like I said b4 we never talk anymore really.

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