Stay away from drugs unless they´re really
medically indicated! And a shrink who feels a bit helpless doesn´t count as such!
I can´t say I´ve really got the problem, but I know a few people who are dealing with similar issues.
Primary point: Don´t surrender too easily to other people´s ideas of what matters and what doesn´t. You´ve got exactly the same right to be here and to be respected as everybody else does.
Second: Don´t take the image others are presenting of themselves at face value. Everybody has fears and imperfections; And the public image is very often just an act which you can decide to buy - or not. And I know what I´m talking about!
Third: Other people can tell you a lot about yourself - but the more obnoxious personal criticism gets, the more they´re usually telling you about their own
problems. You´d be lost if you´d take everything at face value.
Fourth: You need real friends who respect you no matter what, even if they´re criticizing you at times (same goes for family, wherever possible). Be a real friend, listen without prejudice and don´t judge - and look for the same in others.
Fifth: In most cases, what is percieved as malice is really based on mistakes and attempts to save face. You know it from yourself, expect it in others and again: Don´t judge.
Sixth: Frustration in all its forms is a serious matter - up to a point. But there are negative illusions
as much as there are positive ones. Maybe you can´t fly (yet?
); But you´re certainly not
a worm, either. That much is absolutely certain. Laugh at your frustration when it really goes overboard again. It needs a firm kick in the behind at times.
Seventh: The number of people "who are better than you"
is exactly zero
! If somebody tries to tell you otherwise, he´s lying or he doesn´t know what he´s talking about (usually the latter).
Eighth: Don´t take anything I
say at face value, either. You can
find your own way (even with help), whatever people may saying!