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How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Bit of a tricky issue, as I've never told anyone that the relationship is over, but how do you tell him without hurting him too much. I feel as if its time to end things with my boyfriend as things are not going too well. He is besotted with me and loves me so much but I don't feel the same anymore. Any help would be grateful.
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Step 1. Pile their stuff on the lawn
Step 2. Soak with several gallons of diesel fuel
Step 3. Light
Step 2. Soak with several gallons of diesel fuel
Step 3. Light
Things were better when it was two guys in a dorm room.
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
I got a realllly good one!!!!
IT'S OVER!!!!
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No, to be serious, tell him the truth how you feel and what do you think of the situation. Improvise a bit and yeah he will be feeling sad etc but he will get over it after some weeks/months.
FJWH
IT'S OVER!!!!
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No, to be serious, tell him the truth how you feel and what do you think of the situation. Improvise a bit and yeah he will be feeling sad etc but he will get over it after some weeks/months.
FJWH
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
If he likes you so much, you might has well exploit him for cash/favours/holidays/presents until he wants to dump you.
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Sleep with his best friend
...if you already are
tell him you want to get married
...if you already are
tell him you want to get married
"How Many Assholes we got on this ship?" - Lord Helmet
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Why is it right before women right the heart right out of a mans chest, the first thing out of their mouths is that they still want to be, "freinds"
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Because they naively think it will lessen the hurt the other person feels, and they also believe it will make them feel better about hurting someone deeply by rejecting them.
"Hey, I didn't TOTALLY destroy him - I said we could still be friends!"
Besides, we all know they don't REALLY mean they want to be friends - they want to be FRIENDLY. They want the amicable, "please grant me absolution for the hurt I've caused you," release from their own guilt breakup. They want you to go away, but not as an enemy who holds you in contempt from here on out.
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"Hey, I didn't TOTALLY destroy him - I said we could still be friends!"
Besides, we all know they don't REALLY mean they want to be friends - they want to be FRIENDLY. They want the amicable, "please grant me absolution for the hurt I've caused you," release from their own guilt breakup. They want you to go away, but not as an enemy who holds you in contempt from here on out.
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Tell him how you feel. Be honest and sincere. It's that simple. 
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
EA CO AS ..men play the same game ....Another famous line "You deserve better."
Alcregular -- Okay, I have a question ....suppose that the roles were reserved ..what if you really liked this guy, but he wanted to break-up with you?
Be honest and affirmative in your decision to break-up. Dont play games with his feelings...because in the future, someone may play games with your feelings....what is that saying "what goes around, comes around."
Alcregular -- Okay, I have a question ....suppose that the roles were reserved ..what if you really liked this guy, but he wanted to break-up with you?
Be honest and affirmative in your decision to break-up. Dont play games with his feelings...because in the future, someone may play games with your feelings....what is that saying "what goes around, comes around."
Get over it ! lol
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
I had a chick say once:
"You probably shouldn't call here anymore".
Ouch... Didn't know how to respond after that one other than to find a new chick.
"You probably shouldn't call here anymore".
Ouch... Didn't know how to respond after that one other than to find a new chick.
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
I must have taken a wrong turn somewhere and landed in a dating-forum.
I guess that's what you get after a heafty night of binchdrinking
I guess that's what you get after a heafty night of binchdrinking
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
I'm sure that you don't want to hurt him any more than is neccessary so just explain to him why you feel its time to go your separate ways and make sure he understands that it is definately finished. In the long run he will move on quicker if he isn't clinging on to false hopes. As horribly painful as it is at the time I've found it is better in the long run to make a complete break after a relationship rather than the 'lets remain friends' bit as you get over it quicker and you don't have to worry about how a potential new partner will feel about the ex still lurking (the dreaded ex can cause all sorts of unneccessary problems!).
Good luck.
Good luck.
Like a fine wine, one gets better with age.
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
"Sorry, it's not me - it's you"
"I was thinking about the future, ... and you are not in it! "
"I was thinking about the future, ... and you are not in it! "
2 things are endless: ignorance and space
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
LY7E7.
Any other brilliant ideas?
I'm standing ready with pen & paper.
Any other brilliant ideas?
I'm standing ready with pen & paper.
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Paul Simon said it best in "50 ways to leave your lover":
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don’t need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don’t need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
there are two ways.
tell him ur lez.
the second is from EuroTrip.
YOU "I just cant take the lies and cheating any more"
HIM " But im not cheating on your or lying to you"
YOU " I know your not its me"
done.
tell him ur lez.
the second is from EuroTrip.
YOU "I just cant take the lies and cheating any more"
HIM " But im not cheating on your or lying to you"
YOU " I know your not its me"
done.
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
4 Options .
1/ Did I tell you I prefer women and introduce your local aunty fred the butchest dyke in town
2/ Look at this porno honey and see if you recognise any body( film yourself screwing his best mate)
3/ Have a dildo on the table and tell him " it satisfies me more than you do"
4/ Just dump him
1/ Did I tell you I prefer women and introduce your local aunty fred the butchest dyke in town
2/ Look at this porno honey and see if you recognise any body( film yourself screwing his best mate)
3/ Have a dildo on the table and tell him " it satisfies me more than you do"
4/ Just dump him
thank god i was not born a bird. this type of flying is much better
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
simple solution.
be honest and upfront, just tell her it's over.
be honest and upfront, just tell her it's over.
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Paul Simon said it best in "50 ways to leave your lover":
No I have that episode of the Muppet Show on DVD.
It was 50 ways to love your lever.
No I have that episode of the Muppet Show on DVD.
It was 50 ways to love your lever.
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Just don't let your own ego make it more difficult for you. A lot of people think that their significant others will be absolutely devastated if they pull the breakup trigger. It'll hurt, but unless he's unbalanced, he'll bounce back just fine. Chances re he'll be dating again in a few weeks.
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Alcregular, all I can say is be honest and tell him the truth. If he cares about you the way you say he does....then it will hurt no matter how you put it.
And as far as the friendship thing, I agree with what L-188 said....the friendship thing is b/s line.
Phyllis
And as far as the friendship thing, I agree with what L-188 said....the friendship thing is b/s line.
Phyllis
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Thanks guys for some of your help, I'll be back on the single shelf by the weekend me thinks. 
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Just tell him it's over. If he asks why, then tell him the truth, without to much detail. A real guy appreciates the truth.
Stop talking if he starts asking too many questions, no need for that.
Stop talking if he starts asking too many questions, no need for that.
"Sing a song, play guitar, make it snappy..."
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
tell him you prefer the company of the same sex.. and if your already swinging that way, tell him you prefer the company of the opposite sex..
"sorry darling, you turned me hetrosexual"
"sorry darling, you turned me hetrosexual"
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
If you want to be sensitive and not do it to their face, write a them a personal letter
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Some guys learn to weather a lot of rejection.
I think the restraining order sort of did it for me.
I think the restraining order sort of did it for me.
Happiness is not seeing another trite Ste. Maarten photo all week long.
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
If you're sure this is not going to work out, once you do tell him, stick to your position. Don't get caught in the trap of promises that he will change to please you, it will only make things harder when you have to try and end it again.
I'm facing ending a 15-year relationship right now. Its obvious he is not going to grow up, and through therapy, I realize I do not want to take care of him for the rest of my life, nor am I obligated to. We separated once, I did it with a letter, which was the worst thing I could have done. We reconciled with promises of change, yet the old patterns have emerged, and the prospect of having to end this mess again is tearing me up.
I'm facing ending a 15-year relationship right now. Its obvious he is not going to grow up, and through therapy, I realize I do not want to take care of him for the rest of my life, nor am I obligated to. We separated once, I did it with a letter, which was the worst thing I could have done. We reconciled with promises of change, yet the old patterns have emerged, and the prospect of having to end this mess again is tearing me up.
Oh how I long for the day when the skies were truly Friendly!
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Leave all his stuff in a bin liner on the driveway, and change the locks. Subtle I know, but he'll get the message.
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
You could always do what JGPH1A did to his boyfriend....kill him!
When you hear the noise of the Tartan Army Boys, we'll be coming down the road!
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Re: You could always do what JGPH1A did to his boyfriend....kill him!
Well, eventually - but he enjoyed EVERY minute ! Jealous are we, Kirkie ?
@EGGD. Er - yes. Since the original poster is talking about his boyfriend, I think that's a given.
Well, eventually - but he enjoyed EVERY minute ! Jealous are we, Kirkie ?
@EGGD. Er - yes. Since the original poster is talking about his boyfriend, I think that's a given.
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Oh dear - I am SOOOO sorry. I thought you were a bloke. My humblest and most profound apologies.
grovels pathetically
grovels pathetically
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Thanks for that JGPH1A, just makes me feel sooooo much better than I already do. Good job I don't get offended too easily.
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
JGPH1A: I believe you'll find, upon closer inspection, that the original poster (Alcregular) is, in fact, a SHE, and hence the excuse of homosexuality could remain valid. HOWEVER, I would strongly advise Alcregular against this route as ending things on lies and deceit would only make things worse if the truth were ever to be revealed. Granted, you'll have made your break so that might not concern you, but I think for the sake of your conscience, just be honest and open about this. In matters of the heart honesty if the only way to go.
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Yet again JGPH1A makes an arse of himself on these forums
When you hear the noise of the Tartan Army Boys, we'll be coming down the road!
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Alc - as the female in the relationship, you automatically have the upper hand. That's just basic anthropology. Explain to him kindly but firmly that it's not you, it's him, that it's over, ciao babe, you'd like to say it's been fun, but well, it hasn't, he's a crap shag and has the personality of lowfat yoghurt.
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I guess this is like the cat question earlier, all us females are obligated to help out.
Anyways, be honest, respectful, clear, firm and stick to it, do not try to be extra friendly or slipp into a supporting friend/almost grilfriend situation. That way you give false hope, and drag the process and pain out for him.
There is no point being hurtful or tell him everything you think is wrong with him either.
Sometimes they know it is coming, just get it over with.
Anyways, be honest, respectful, clear, firm and stick to it, do not try to be extra friendly or slipp into a supporting friend/almost grilfriend situation. That way you give false hope, and drag the process and pain out for him.
There is no point being hurtful or tell him everything you think is wrong with him either.
Sometimes they know it is coming, just get it over with.
still dreaming after all these years
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
I think this a good way to tell them:
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Dear Sir,
Your Relationship with topic "Alcregular and you"
has been removed from the list of active relationships.
The reason is as follows:
IT'S OVER
Sorry bub but you missed the boat. Time to cut your losses and move on. Consider going to a couple bars or even clubs and find someone fun and/or easy.
Please consider this to be a fair and friendly notice. In order for a relationship to function in a way that benefits all its members, there have to be rules, both explicit and implicit. Kindly stay within the rules in the future.
The rules of the relationship (which you have agreed to follow):
https://www.airliners.net/discussions/rules.main?confirm=no
Sincerely,
AC320
Forum Moderator
Airliners.net
A copy of the removed/archived/moved relationship is included below:
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Dear Sir,
Your Relationship with topic "Alcregular and you"
has been removed from the list of active relationships.
The reason is as follows:
IT'S OVER
Sorry bub but you missed the boat. Time to cut your losses and move on. Consider going to a couple bars or even clubs and find someone fun and/or easy.
Please consider this to be a fair and friendly notice. In order for a relationship to function in a way that benefits all its members, there have to be rules, both explicit and implicit. Kindly stay within the rules in the future.
The rules of the relationship (which you have agreed to follow):
https://www.airliners.net/discussions/rules.main?confirm=no
Sincerely,
AC320
Forum Moderator
Airliners.net
A copy of the removed/archived/moved relationship is included below:
fuddle duddle
RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
In the words of Homer Simpson on what to say to break up with someone of the opposite sex: "I'm not gay, but I'll learn."
NZblue
NZblue
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
About a month ago I ended a relationship. We had been together for almost two years, had lived together for almost a year. We had two adorable kittens together (well, adopted them anyway). I wasn't happy, and with our lease ont he apartment ending at the end of September, it was time.
I sat him down one morning. Told him it was over. When he asked why, I was very honest. I told him exactly why it was happening and what I had tried to do to correct things. He took it well, just stared at the table. I on the other hand was a pathetic mess of tears (hey, I'll be honest about being a crying man). And, we are still friends. He even helped me move and paint my new bedroom last weekend.
So like others have said... just be honest. Don't get mad, don't shout, don't get violent... just be calm, organized and honest. Good luck.
I sat him down one morning. Told him it was over. When he asked why, I was very honest. I told him exactly why it was happening and what I had tried to do to correct things. He took it well, just stared at the table. I on the other hand was a pathetic mess of tears (hey, I'll be honest about being a crying man). And, we are still friends. He even helped me move and paint my new bedroom last weekend.
So like others have said... just be honest. Don't get mad, don't shout, don't get violent... just be calm, organized and honest. Good luck.
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
hahaha...
Honesty works the best.
The last person I dumped got -
"When I see you, it feels more like we're friends moreso than boyfriends... so I think it's just silly for us to keep being together as boyfriends when it's not."
Which was quite true.
Trent.
Honesty works the best.
The last person I dumped got -
"When I see you, it feels more like we're friends moreso than boyfriends... so I think it's just silly for us to keep being together as boyfriends when it's not."
Which was quite true.
Trent.
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
ALCregular;
If you've been feeling this way for any lenght of time, believe me, he's already aware something's wrong. We guys have a sixth sense when it comes to these things. He's probably already expecting the worst... So, no sense in putting both yourselves through further torture. Just end it and set both yourselves free.
There's nothing more frustrating for someone than to be involved and have feelings that are way stronger that the other person's. During the relationship, you expected honesty from him. Now, it's your turn to reciprocate and be honest with him. It's far better for you to be straight-up about this.
I'm assuming you've probably been exibiting signs such as short temper; easily annoyed; no longer amused; unable (reluctant) to meet him, etc.? Therefore, he's probably waiting for you to end the relationship, but really hoping you won't. Don't be surprised if he isn't (...surprised, that is).
If you've been feeling this way for any lenght of time, believe me, he's already aware something's wrong. We guys have a sixth sense when it comes to these things. He's probably already expecting the worst... So, no sense in putting both yourselves through further torture. Just end it and set both yourselves free.
There's nothing more frustrating for someone than to be involved and have feelings that are way stronger that the other person's. During the relationship, you expected honesty from him. Now, it's your turn to reciprocate and be honest with him. It's far better for you to be straight-up about this.
I'm assuming you've probably been exibiting signs such as short temper; easily annoyed; no longer amused; unable (reluctant) to meet him, etc.? Therefore, he's probably waiting for you to end the relationship, but really hoping you won't. Don't be surprised if he isn't (...surprised, that is).
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
How to tell someone it's over?
"Honey, I've decided to take up the accordion."
That usually does the trick.
"Honey, I've decided to take up the accordion."
That usually does the trick.
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
I told him to back off last night, I just feel as is he is smothering me and I cant breathe because of him. He took it ok, he just wished I 'd told him sooner, even though he has only been like this for about two weeks. I've been ill for a couple of weeks, and he just fusses all the time and won't leave me alone. He loves me more than I love him. But i think this relationship has run it course, so will end it by the end of next week at the latest, I think. I'll see how it goes over the next week. Thanks for all your help guys, i really appreciate this.
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RE: How To Tell Someone It's Over.
Well guys, thanks for all your help, Im now officially back on the single shelf. I told him the truth, that we just don't seem to be getting along and I don't think it will work out. He was a bit teary but was fine.
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