Airplay you overdid it with that one.... Every situation is different, it's just that I can relate to Cragley on his situation - let me describe in real-time. I'm typing this from my terminal in a corner of a processing lab which is shared with another dept. It consists of 5 women who have been working together for 20 years. They are in their mid-50's. My ovens are in a corner where I have this desk. I spend maybe 10 hours a week in this room to moniter my tests. They've come to accept me since I do not talk to them.
Right now two of the women are gossiping about another engineer and his son, all not true and in my mind it's none of their business. Now one is talking about how she hates to drive to Palm Springs to visit her Dad, but she has to do it, sigh. Now a loud shriek (thanks for the silence!) as they scream and laugh about the yeast infection their absent co-worker had least week (cringe to my ears). Hold on, one asked me a question about a certain car and I told them I don't know...I actually do know but I with-hold information since I've seen other mortals who were truthful and correct become condemned or criticized if the female heard the truth and wasn't happy about it, literally yelled at... Ok, the other guy left the room, now they are making fun of his shirt and wonder if he ever gets any women, f*ck they laugh like hens, oh, he stepped back in and now they're quiet - one does ask if he has a ladyfriend, he says yes, she laughs at him and says prove it it's impossible. WOW, talk about going back to grade-school! Now another engineer asks a technical question to one of them and he gets an answer of 'that's how it was on the print, draw it the right way', trouble is, he didn't draw it, his predecessor did and she advised him on the techincal aspects of that part, sigh. Oh, a VP
just walked in the room and now the hi shrilled 'Hi and kiss-ass 'Hello's' are in play, All sweet and innocent, laughter and guffaws at a stupid joke the jack-ass chopped up, sheit, this is bad.
Ok, now you ask, how do they tolerate me? Because I told them off one day after they said something to me that was completely deragatory in order to show they were the 'boss of this room'. I looked each one of them in the eye, told them to f*ck off, said that if they ever got on my case about me working in here again that I will go straight to HR
and tell them what they said to me. I then told them that I will not go to HR
if they choose not to talk to me at anytime, no hellos' or what have you, just let me do my work in peace and leave me alone, they have done that. It only works for me since I called them out on what crap they have pulled on me, I was stearn and to the point. No trouble since then, that was 3 years ago, a year after I had to move my ovens in here.
Again, every situation is different, but I know EXACTLY what Cragley is going through all to well. It's just the nature of the beast.
[Edited 2005-02-02 23:27:57]