|Quoting WESTERN737800 (Reply 48):|
I'm also not sure where the line is between "expressing interest" and "harassing".
I think the line is defined in the response of the other person. I mean you know when a girl is interested.
You mentioned all the things you like to do, but when you just meet a girl that wouldn't come to the forefront, and whats more not all girls like the same type of guy so it is a serious tasks on find a girl that likes you. But don't give up that is why it is called the dating game. If it doesn't work out well it doesn't move on to the next, don't go falling in love on the very first kiss.
Be confident. You are a grown man you know what you are doing, you know what you want. If such is not the case, well the girls doesn't need to know that.
Don't be needy, or mention all your future plans on the first date, especially the future planes you may be conjuring up in your mind with her. That can scare a girl away.
Don't try to hard, i mean doing all the things you think girls like. Most men we don't have a clue. Every girl is different. SO the key is really to be yourself, girls tend to go for that, if by being yourself, to them you are charming.
Those are the 3 things I can think of off the top of my head.
Next the place?
Bars are great, I have always had luck there and my current girlfriend possibly future wife I met in a bar a long time ago. It is relaxing there are drinks, but it is not too loud so a conversation is possible.
How do you get a girls attention. Well walk around a bit, see who is there, throw some smiles, not perverse just pleasant polite ones. Then when you see a girl that you like, and she also seems to have an interest, go to her and say some thing nice, a compliment maybe, BUT NOT SOMETHING CLICHE. And from there you're off. Typical questions to get to know someone. I like to leave asking the name till later on, cause if she is not comfortable or maybe you aren't either well what is the point of giving your name. If all goes well, then exchange emails. ( I prefer that than telephones, from virtual world you can get the telephone and somewhere along the line set up a date.) You are on your own from here..:D
Sometimes I find it helpful or even necessary to have a wingman, or a group of buddies. I mean if a girl sees a guy just walking around a bar alone, well that just looks a little off. SO make it seem as if your objective that night was to hang with your mate.
Relax man, take your time, you will be fine.