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Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sat May 12, 2012 7:17 pm

Right, Wrong or Creepy?

It's your friend's daughter. She is now an adult (25 y/o or so). You've known her since her birth and it's your friend's daughter. And there's a 25 year gap between you and her. What now?

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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sat May 12, 2012 7:18 pm

Creepy.....and wrong. To your friend: Put yourself in the shoes of your friend.

Not to mention you've watched her grow up from a little girl....maybe even acted as a roll model.

[Edited 2012-05-12 12:19:31]
 
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sat May 12, 2012 7:31 pm

Quoting varigb707 (Thread starter):
Right, Wrong or Creepy?

Creepy, because:

Quoting varigb707 (Thread starter):
You've known her since her birth and it's your friend's daughter.

-----------

If you had just met a twenty-something year old girl who is 25 years your junior, then all power to you. But as you so mention, there's a more in-depth history behind it, and that alone writes it off as not entirely appropriate (in my books anyway).

Quoting 777222LR (Reply 1):
Put yourself in the shoes of your friend.

An excellent point.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sat May 12, 2012 7:36 pm

That ish would fly in the 1800s.

BUT IT AIN'T THE 1800s!

  
 
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sat May 12, 2012 7:37 pm

There's nothing wrong...but it's creepy. They are both consenting adults...wait a minute...better not say anything else or else we might see a law against dating your friend's daughter...:D

All kidding aside, they are both consenting adults, both over the minimum age to decide what to do with their lives. However, I don't think that might be a match made in heaven.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sat May 12, 2012 7:41 pm

Quoting 777222LR (Reply 1):
Not to mention you've watched her grow up from a little girl....maybe even acted as a roll model.
Quoting WestJet747 (Reply 2):
If you had just met a twenty-something year old girl who is 25 years your junior, then all power to you. But as you so mention, there's a more in-depth history behind it, and that alone writes it off as not entirely appropriate (in my books anyway).

Yepp, that basically makes the whole thing extremely creepy. I would never be able to have a relationship with someone that I have seen grow up from a toddler to an adult.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sat May 12, 2012 7:56 pm

Morally weird but not illegal obviously.

Personally not my bag but if you go for it you better make sure her dad doesn't have a shotgun. 
 
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sat May 12, 2012 8:10 pm

While I guess love should know no bounds, it definitely feels really creepy to me. A 50 year old guy going after a 25 year old girl? That's not a situation that would make me feel comfortable.

I would've put the last line of your OP at the very beginning. That's an important point I almost missed when typing my post out.
 
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sat May 12, 2012 8:54 pm

Creepy!

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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 12:23 am

I suggest dating your daughter's friend instead !
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 5:38 am

Quoting varigb707 (Thread starter):
It's your friend's daughter. She is now an adult (25 y/o or so). You've known her since her birth and it's your friend's daughter. And there's a 25 year gap between you and her. What now?

Am I the only one waiting for the "And by the way, she's also my godchild" shoe to drop?   
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 9:04 am

It's wrong and it's creepy! You are old enough to be her father for goodness sake.

Call me old fashioned, but that's a line you should never cross. And hope her father doesn't find out or you are in for a whole load of trouble.

[Edited 2012-05-13 02:06:08]
 
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 3:35 pm

Terrible idea!
Don't do it and don't even think about it!
Surprised anyone would even ask.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 5:06 pm

Quoting cpd (Reply 11):
It's wrong and it's creepy! You are old enough to be her father for goodness sake.

Call me old fashioned, but that's a line you should never cross. And hope her father doesn't find out or you are in for a whole load of trouble.
Quoting Superfly (Reply 12):
Terrible idea!
Don't do it and don't even think about it!
Surprised anyone would even ask.
NO, NO, NO!....DO NOT CROSS THAT LINE!

Don't go there Varig! There are some things in life you just don't do, and not only is this one of them, it's at the top of the list!

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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 5:26 pm

25 yrs old ? She's an adult and can make her own decisions. Dad might not like it, but he'll have to live with it, although definitely the male in question is going to lose a life-long friend. From what I've seen, fathers get very territorial about their daughters. Freud might have something to say about that, b.t.w.



Quoting Airport (Reply 7):
While I guess love should know no bounds, it definitely feels really creepy to me. A 50 year old guy going after a 25 year old girl? That's not a situation that would make me feel comfortable.

I'm 60, my squeeze is 36. Not only that, she left her husband for me. Creepy ?
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 5:46 pm

Age is completely besides the point. He is your friend that you had for a very long time.
Doesn't matter if she's 25, 30, 35. A friendship of 25+ years such be treated like a family member. It's almost like incest.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 6:18 pm

I don't chime in the "creepy!" calls, but I have another important objection.

I would seriously ask myself what I could give her - and what she could give me. If I was 50 years old, I would have my own home. I would have raised my own children. But she would just have finished her studies, for example. As a 50-year old dating a 25-year old, it would give me the pleasant feeling of being an attractive guy. If somebody that young decides herself for an old bag o'potatoes like me, it MUST be a honor. 

And her "intention" would be to attach herself to somebody who has had success in his life - a valid reason, truly. But I would not wager on that relationship being a lasting one. Do you incidentally know what his intentions are? And what about hers?



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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 7:59 pm

NO.

Had you just met her at 25 vs. 50, then I would have had nothing against that. I'd have just recommended that you keep your wallet safe and secure somewhere, and that's about it.

But given that you've virtually witnessed her growth from infant to adult (and all that comes with it, teenage years and so on...), it's definitely creepy.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 8:04 pm

Quoting AF1624 (Reply 17):
you
Quoting Superfly (Reply 15):
your
Quoting fridgmus (Reply 13):
Don't go there Varig!
Quoting cpd (Reply 11):
You

You guys all missed this important line:

Quoting varigb707 (Thread starter):
For those wondering, it ain't me.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 8:47 pm

Ya that's how all the stories go "a friend of mine not me"...
 
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 9:21 pm

Quoting flyingturtle (Reply 16):
I would seriously ask myself what I could give her - and what she could give me. If I was 50 years old, I would have my own home. I would have raised my own children. But she would just have finished her studies, for example. As a 50-year old dating a 25-year old, it would give me the pleasant feeling of being an attractive guy. If somebody that young decides herself for an old bag o'potatoes like me, it MUST be a honor. 

And her "intention" would be to attach herself to somebody who has had success in his life - a valid reason, truly. But I would not wager on that relationship being a lasting one. Do you incidentally know what his intentions are? And what about hers?

Nothing wrong with a 50 year old and a 25 year old starting a relationship. It's the 'friend's daughter' that people object too. The age difference is besides the point in this case.

Quoting KingairTA (Reply 19):
Ya that's how all the stories go "a friend of mine not me"...

Yep.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 10:20 pm

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 18):
You guys all missed this important line:

Quoting varigb707 (Thread starter):
For those wondering, it ain't me.

You got us Doc!

We failed to pay attention to detail! Shame on us!

Sorry Varig!

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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 11:44 pm

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 18):
You guys all missed this important line:

Well, whatever, but it's wrong!

Sorry Varig - but yeah, you get our idea.
 
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 13, 2012 11:55 pm

Quoting varigb707 (Thread starter):
For those wondering, it ain't me.

Sure it's not.

No, really - WE BELIEVE YOU.  
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Mon May 14, 2012 5:18 am

Quoting fridgmus (Reply 21):
We failed to pay attention to detail! Shame on us!
Quoting EA CO AS (Reply 23):
No, really - WE BELIEVE YOU.

I remember episodes of The Brady Bunch, Different Strokes and Punky Brewster all dealt with this very subject. Kids going to an adult to discuss a "friend's" problem and the adult assumed that the kid was really talking about themselves.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Mon May 14, 2012 1:17 pm

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 18):
You guys all missed this important line:

I admit that this was a least a little bit on purpose.

"Not me, a friend" is kind of classic, really.

If it is indeed a friend, though, my point remains.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Mon May 14, 2012 2:16 pm

Quoting connies4ever (Reply 14):
From what I've seen, fathers get very territorial about their daughters.



Well, I have an adult daughter. She's 22. I wonder about my own reaction in a similar case and you know what? If she would date a guy who's 25 years older but is a normal, hard working guy, I wouldn't mind. There are much worse possibilities than that.

That said, I personally wouldn't date women in her age.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Mon May 14, 2012 2:27 pm

WildcatYXU : so, if the normal guy is your friend, would that be OK ? Would you think something along the line of "better him than a drug addict" ?
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Mon May 14, 2012 3:08 pm

Quoting Aesma (Reply 27):
WildcatYXU : so, if the normal guy is your friend, would that be OK ? Would you think something along the line of "better him than a drug addict" ?

If this guy is my friend, I would know exactly why kind of person is he and why is he single in his age. I would express my opinion depending on that. And this is all I could do about it anyway, isn't it?

And yes, I would think exactly along the line " a normal, but older man is better that any kind of young loser".
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Mon May 14, 2012 4:53 pm

Quoting WildcatYXU (Reply 28):
And yes, I would think exactly along the line " a normal, but older man is better that any kind of young loser".

At least he wouldn't be diddling himself with texting people standing right next to him.  Older people know they have less time left, so they don't waste it.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Mon May 14, 2012 5:12 pm

Here is a 100% unscientific way of figuring this out: your age / two + eight = the youngest you can date.

So 50 / 2 + 8 = 33. Way too young, a little creepy, and incredibly awkward for you and your friend.
 
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Mon May 14, 2012 8:11 pm

Quoting elmothehobo (Reply 30):
Here is a 100% unscientific way of figuring this out: your age / two + eight = the youngest you can date.

So 50 / 2 + 8 = 33. Way too young, a little creepy, and incredibly awkward for you and your friend.

OK I'm 60, she's 36. 60/2 + 8 = 38. Pretty close.   
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Tue May 15, 2012 10:59 am

Whoever this person is, they must realize that in their quest for young(er) tail, they will likely draw the ire of not only her father, but pretty much everybody in their lives.

Frankly, if I were 50, I'd stay the hell away from girls that age. Too many issues going on there...
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Fri May 18, 2012 3:48 pm

Umm..totally creepy and totally wrong.
Which brings this to my mind
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Fri May 18, 2012 4:19 pm

Quoting Maverick623 (Reply 32):
Frankly, if I were 50, I'd stay the hell away from girls that age. Too many issues going on there...

Personally I would too, but just remember, every girl you sleep with is some guy's daughter...
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Fri May 18, 2012 5:03 pm

Quoting elmothehobo (Reply 30):
Here is a 100% unscientific way of figuring this out: your age / two + eight = the youngest you can date.

I've always heard it said a 1/2 your age plus 7. Not that a year makes a difference though.

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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Fri May 18, 2012 5:43 pm

If a friend, similar age to me etc, tried anything with my daughter, I would probably tear him to pieces. And I would expect the same from any friend of mine if I was stupid enough to try it with their offspring.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Fri May 18, 2012 5:46 pm

I, as a father with a daughter, would find that sufficient motive to examine my gun collection thinking of which one I should use.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Fri May 18, 2012 6:16 pm

If you and your friend are of similar age group, your friend's daughter would be like your own daughter IMO. It just doesn't look right.

'you or your friend, if it is not you"

[Edited 2012-05-18 11:19:02]
 
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Fri May 18, 2012 6:17 pm

Just too creepy for me. If I had a friend who wanted to be with my daughter that he's watched grow up I'd be thinking to myself "how long has he been wanting to be with my daughter?" That would freak me out. There's so many other options out there. Don't do it. Oh I mean tell "your friend" not to do it.
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sat May 19, 2012 10:16 am

Why have you waited till she's 25? You should have nailed her 7 years ago.
 
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RE: Dating Your Friend's Daughter.

Sun May 20, 2012 7:31 am

Creepy... I don't know why OP has just brought the conservation

Even...if an old man married to woman who is about similar his daughter's age group. Both can be look like sisters. It doesn't look right either....
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