Not being able to decide occurs often in people who have made painful experiences in the past. Often they're regretting a choice they've made at some point, and it has backfired.
|Quoting LH526 (Reply 4):|
What helped me decide between two options: Flip a coin ... the outcome is not important, but once the coin spins aloft, you immediately will know what you wish for.
Or make a list of the pros and cons of every alternative, and assign +3 for a good reason to do it, +1 for a weak reason to do it, and make a tally.
Deciding has been two things for me: The first thing is cranking up my brain to find good reasons to do something, and if I fail to do so, I won't do it. So I shut out emotions and get on a purely logical base.
The other thing is letting a dice decide for me if two alternatives are more or less equal. So I completely shut out logical reasoning. Why? Because I will miss something everytime anyway. If I go to bed now (It's 8:15 AM
), I will be rested more, but I haven't done work. If I do work, I feel more tired.
I suggest to you to get used to "missing out" on something. Just decide for the first thing that comes up, and stick with it - you'll probably make the experience that missing out on the other stuff did not kill you, did not hurt you, and did not make you feel bad.
You will miss out on many things more if you're wasting time with decisions.