|Quoting N867DA (Reply 250):|
My parents live in India and they have observed something similar. The grandmother in the family wears a sari. The mother wears a headscarf. The daughter wears a niqab or abaya. Ditto on the male side--grandfather wears what everyone else wears, and the sons have full on beards and salwars in an area where they are very uncommon. I don't think people following a more strict interpretation of Islam in India is a good thing, but that's what seems to be happening.
It is not good for the country for Muslims to marginalize themselves so much. You are already the most economically and educationally backward community in India today. This kind of ghettoization makes it worse. Modern India has never prevented anyone from accomplishing what their abilities gave them the capability to do. I hope your family sees sense.
Your community counts amongst yourselves everyone from the current sitting Vice President, a former President who's also a recently deceased scientific legend, multiple former cricket team captains (amongst the most high profile positions in the country), the current world #1 women's doubles tennis player and winner of this year's Wimbledon, US Open and World Championship, many of the major male bollywood stars, former army and air force chief of staffs, and dozens of other luminaries.
What more do Muslims in India need ? You are not going to get better by demanding special favours from others. In fact, all the above succeeded because they got a level playing field, not special favours. Walling yourself off from society and then getting even more bitter about the benefits of that society not coming your way, is not going to help you. It's stupid and self defeating. That's the same mistake they make everywhere else as well, not just in India. When you are free to perform freely in a competitive society, you've already proven yourselves capable of accomplishing much, so so why do you even special treatment. APJ Abdul Kalam, Shah Rukh Khan or Sania Mirza didn't get where they were, on charity.