I admit to the possibility that what you have just stated is true. I have made no attempt to compare the frequency of my use of ad hominem to your frequency or that of anyone else.
But I do not, as you do, make use of a magic wand to wave away my faults. My skin is not so thin that I am unable to own up to my errors, or to claim a wrong has, magically, become a "contribution".
Ok, you can own up to this one: I did not post an ad hominem you accused me of posting one. The question is what are you going to do about it now?
I did not"own up to this
one". You are living in a dream world.
I realize that you will probably never agree that your curt use of the words "selfish and foolish" were in denigration of the person you were responding to. "Selfish" is not at attribute of "answer".
Until you can bring yourself to admit that, there is little sense in trying to discuss the matter with you.
I know you didn't own up to this one, or the other ones I pointed out to you, so you can own up to it, but you choose not to.
You still haven't got the difference between calling an act (an answer in this regard) something and calling a person something. The latter is not done, the first is common practice. The later is indeed denigration of the person, the first isn't. You can dis-a-proof of an act of someone, but you can still love a person.
One has a real problem raising children if one can't distinguish between the two. You are a reasonably intelligent man, so I have to ask myself why don't you want to see the difference?