This is true but 'figuring things out' requires discussing things in a nuanced way, which helps to arrive at middling conclusions. That's what SCOTUS largely did with Roe
- the justices said the question of when life begins was essentially philosophical and not properly addressed by a court. But insofar as a pregnancy is a medical condition with life-altering decisions for a woman to consider in consultation with herself, family, and a doctor, it was reasonable to place that context within the private decision-making applied to other life situations, and use medical science for guidance where applicable. That's why most countries allowing abortion have a cut off between 20 and 23 weeks, when viability can be medically established with relative certainty.
I agree that simplistic arguments do nothing for an issue like this generally, but the strong disconnect between the right's hollering about rights of the unborn while simultaneously voting against many programs that would benefit kids born in difficult circumstances seriously calls sincerity of those positions into doubt. Which logically leads to wondering what such activists really
think about the personal lives of women and what to do about them. And those opinions seem to be based more often on judgment than science.
Without going into the various nuances of how people get into difficult life and relationship situations, it's enough to say that people are complicated and people have a variety of ways of encountering unintended consequences. Many adults are not emotionally mature enough for adult relationships but they don't know that and attempt them anyway, because that's nature at work.
I don't like the idea of abortion but I see it as a necessary evil as a last resort. Sure, it's preferable if women who find themselves in trouble carry a child to term to be adopted, but they may not have the financial, family, or emotional resources to do so - and most considering abortion probably don't. At the end of the day, logically, it doesn't matter so much why a woman decides what she does, because it's not really any of our business. We would not order a perfect genetic match for an organ transplant to give up part of their body to save someone else's life - that would be their decision to make. By the same token, we cannot reasonably order a woman to offer up her uterus to save a life, if that process is not something she is willing to carry through.