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johns624 wrote:It's a sign that you spend too much time in cyberspace and not enough in the real world. Sorry, but that's it.
phugoid1982 wrote:dating options are so crappy in the US unless you are interested in hook up culture which I loathe.
phugoid1982 wrote:I hate to say it but i wonder if i've reached the age where i just need to settle.
phugoid1982 wrote:Are online crushes a sign you've been single too long
M564038 wrote:A fan trying to get a date is a stalker waiting to happen.
phugoid1982 wrote:I hate to say it but i wonder if i've reached the age where i just need to settle.
phugoid1982 wrote:My last gf ended up stalking me
phugoid1982 wrote:i grew up in a time where if you met some one interesting you ask them out and saw what follows. Like i said before, dating is awful these days. No getting to know you, let's just hookup. Plus COVID gave me plenty time to waste on youtube which i ordinarily would never have done. The realworld offers very little except vapid shallow airheads with unrealistic expectations at least in the US.
lightsaber wrote:The current dating scene is nuts. I'm divorced and recently accepted my friends dare to ask someone out. I've chosen to not do online, for now, as several friends had not so great experiences recently.
So I'm going out dancing with several female friends planning to introduce me to available women. If it works, great, if not I'll try other in real life ways to meet someone.
Don't feel you must settle. Instead pick a few real priorities and let the rest slide. You'll be angry with yourself and whomever you "settle" with.
Ignore a celebrity crush, that isn't anything real. That isn't healthy.
Lightsaber
LittleFokker wrote:So my divorce was made official about 16 months ago, and I've been separated from my ex for almost 3 years now. Dating has changed quite a bit from when I first met my ex wife 13 years ago. The biggest difference is now online dating is not only accepted, but is the norm. Before, it was still a little taboo to tell others that you met your s/o online.
But more importantly, the me too movement has certainly made an impact on how I present myself to others, not just my words, but my physical motions and gestures, and I try to be conscious of the message it might send. If I have a gripe about the me too movement, it's that there's been too much focus on all the ways men have done women wrong, and not enough emphasis on what a healthy interaction should look like. I still don't know how to properly express sexual interest to a woman in a way that won't make her uncomfortable, and I doubt it exists. I have adopted the attitude that I will wait until she expresses interest in me before anything will happen.
I have been using MeetUp quite a bit since my divorce and I've really found it helpful to just be able to socialize around an active with no expectation of anything romantic resulting from it.
vikkyvik wrote:phugoid1982 wrote:Are online crushes a sign you've been single too long
No such thing as "being single too long". 1.5 years isn't really that long, anyway.
AirKevin wrote:Get a job driving local...seriously. It's hard to have a relationship when you're gone for 2 weeks at a time and only home for 2-3 days. I don't know what your schedule is, but you said you were an OTR drive and that's a common schedule.vikkyvik wrote:phugoid1982 wrote:Are online crushes a sign you've been single too long
No such thing as "being single too long". 1.5 years isn't really that long, anyway.
I've been single for my entire life, so there's that.
johns624 wrote:AirKevin wrote:Get a job driving local...seriously. It's hard to have a relationship when you're gone for 2 weeks at a time and only home for 2-3 days. I don't know what your schedule is, but you said you were an OTR drive and that's a common schedule.vikkyvik wrote:
No such thing as "being single too long". 1.5 years isn't really that long, anyway.
I've been single for my entire life, so there's that.